I was dating a man for about a year and was madly head over heels in love. We went hiking, to the movies and just about everything together. We were so devoted that we dreamed of the future, weddings, kids. There were a few rough arguments that sent me crying for days over the idea of being without him.
Well, one night I went to bed dreaming of the man I loved, the next morning I woke up, looked at him and thought "Ick, who are you, what am I doing here, I don't think I even like you!" I packed my bag, left the spare key and left forever with out a word.
As for the man I loved so much I don't have a single iota of guilt or remorse for randomly leaving. I can't even really remember why I liked him. I guess this must mean I never loved him.
Anyone have the experience of loving someone so much one day and just leaving without a thought the next day? Anyone ever love someone deeply and then just leave with no guilt or warning?
If so I hope we aren't sociopaths!
2007-01-11 02:27:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
LOL, in response to one of the answerers, I suppose I could be a cold hearted b*tch and just didn't realize it til now. If so it has it's benifits, like being able to go get a manicure and not worry about men you've eaten.
(jk)
2007-01-11 02:34:31 · update #1
I'm not sure if you are a sociopath, or just a cold-hearted b*tch.
2007-01-11 02:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, see, the things you said held you together in the first place were activities, nothing soulful. So that love thing very well may have been all chemical.
I know a guy who had a relationship in which the two got along well, had a lot of fun things to do,but just didn't connect. It was high school anyway, so no humongous deal.... and there was hurt, but the basic idea was...
Is this all there is?
Don't feel bad. You're not the only one.
And sometimes, things like this tell us that we're personally unfulfilled. We women, especially, thend to think that a lover will complete us. Then we forget to be ourselves altogether. If this happens to you while you're with someone you actually spiritually connect with, then you need to stay, and re-align yourself.
Find yourself again. Hopefully you won't have to leave to do it.
But seriously, it sounds like you two had fun and chemicals.
Forgive yourself.
He's probably addicted to someone else by now, and maybe in a good way, too!
2007-01-11 11:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that! I dated a guy for a year and 2 months, and we were engaged. One day, I realized that I didn't love him, I hated him. Same as you- i just rolled over in bed and was disgusted at what I saw. So I got up and left. Good for you for doing what makes you happy- so many people don't realize when a relationship is over, and try to recapture what they used to have. And as to the two of us being cold harded bitches.. well, isn't it crueler to lie to the person about loving them?
2007-01-11 10:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by paintmeblue719 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious about your dream- was there something in the dream that turned you off?...Were there other thing that were getting on your nerves?
I was engaged to a guy for about 4 months... He was really sweet- did all sorts of things together- hikes, movies, tv, even church, and he was oh-so romantic!.... but he couldn't be on time to save his life!... He went through 3 jobs in as many months. He was always late for dates... started to irritate... And I fell out of love with him and eventually broke off the engagement.
2007-01-11 10:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well- I've heard of that happening--alot--the light came on and you just realized that your life wasn't happening with this person. At least you weren't married.
2007-01-11 11:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever really loved them. You could'nt do that to someone you loved. You're not a bad person, you just didn't love them!
2007-01-11 10:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by s_is_for_skye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a normal chick (sorry) nothing special
2007-01-11 11:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by sowhat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋