why doesnt my 16 year old daughter know that sex isnt healthy in her age?

Question

loook i have a daughter that is really preasuring me to punish her ! iam an american single mom ! she sneeks out at night and has sex with her boy friend ! when she comes home i know that she is here ! so i come and slap her its for the first time i do this to my daughter ! i talk to her but she say s i need my space ! so know she is grounded for a mouth ! sneeking out but she said she hates me ! till death ! i was really sd and cried for like an hour in my bedroom ! so waht should i do ! she doesnt thing of anything but sex ! and he mall
! and her friends and does nothing of her chores! so if anyone has an idea! reaply
help

Answer 1

When you hit your 16 year old daughter on the face is throwing any trust and respect that your daughter will feel for you RIGHT OUT THE DOOR ......Wake up women and grow up
I feel sorry for your daughter.

Answer 2

Show her this reply from me:

There are many different kinds of sexually transmitted diseases, one of them is AIDS. There is also genital warts, caused by the Human Papilloma Virus or "HPV" and is the cause of cervical CANCER. You can get pregnant from having sex even if you only do it once. You can also get herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, pubic LICE, and more nasty conditions and diseases. Your mother has a point. Having sex to defy your mother is not very smart, and later on in life you will probably look back and THANK her for telling you about this. You are 16 years old and you don't have a clue about the so-called "real world" yet - you only think you do. Your mom loves you, and sometimes when somebody loves you they have to say a great big NO to you for your own good. I wish my parents had said "no" to me much more often because I would have had greater discipline and could have accomplished much more in my life. You shouldn't hate your mom, because your mom is trying to steer you in the SMART direction - if you think about it, if YOU had a daughter would you want HER to have sex with some boyfriend when SHE is 16 years old??? I'm guessing that might just change the way you see things if you think about that for just a little while.

Good luck to the both of you.

Answer 3

So sorry to hear that you are in such an unhappy state of mind..

Teenagers these days either they do it or they don't.. They are usually fueled by hormones(the guys) to have sex. The girls are so innocent that they think it's true love and thus giving in to sex.

Your daughter doesn't realise the dangers of contracting STDs from sex or the risk of having a baby at this time. A condom does not fully protect one from contracting STDs, there are a numbers of stds that can be easily transmitted even though her partner has on a condom. You could send her to a course on teen sex , virginity, and its concequences that hopefully will wake her up. You could also consult a counsellor or other teenage mothers-close friends of yours.

You shouldn't hit or scold her, that will just make her avoid you and be more distant. By the way ,are you very sure that she's having sex?

Answer 4

i understand where your coming from i have a daughter that is 17 and although she does not sneak out to have sex.i can relate to what your saying, I'm wondering how old this boyfriend is? if he is older then maybe you can tell her that you will file charges on him if she sneaks out again.or talk to his parents. i doubt that will do any good. but what you can do is is set your alarm clock, and go check on her if she is not there then call the police, maybe being brought home by the police a few times will make her realize your not playing games with her. grounding her is a waste of your time.i know many people feel that if you put your daughter on birth control at this age your saying that its OK for them to have sex. well i will disagree. your protecting her from an std and an unwanted pregnancy.good luck!

Answer 5

Perfect solution, listen carefully!!!
Don't every slap her again, ever ever ever Trust me on this I do believe in spanking and strong discipline but to create respect we must start it ourselves and hitting another persons face is just too much, especially your daughters!
Once you calm down sit and talk to her like a woman. Explain to her that sex is not evil, hell it was designed by God so that we can have a little piece of heaven on earth. But its best in marriage, but if she still wants to do these things, please please get her on a stable healthy form of birth control, prayers cannot be the method! Take her to planned parenthood or something and condoms are essential b/c their are way to many std's out there to be messing around like that! Please I understand that your a mother and you want the best but if your leanign towards control instead of total prevention it will not work. You are her mother not her friend, so going to the clinic is not as a buddy is a learning experience and thats all. Mind you you don't want to know wat exactly she does, ect....
Good Luck Sweetie and stop crying!!!

Answer 6

Try to avoid slapping her for a start. She is 16 and her hormones are telling her what to do. You should be trying to provide her with love and support and guidance... not punishing her for feeling something that is completely natural. If it helps, I used to tell my daughter that feeling that way is normal, but it doesn't mean you have to act on it. Stop trying to make her feel guilty for it. Your behaviour is going to drive her away and make her need to "find love" elsewhere even more extreme. Talk to her, like a mother!

Answer 7

try to sit down with her and explain your fears to her. Why you are scaried that she is having sex. However this most likely will not stop her. Here is what you can do. If she is having sex than make sure that it is safe, talk about condom and birth control. You could take her to a gynocoligist to talk to her about it. Remember she is a different person.

Answer 8

i'm sorry notwithstanding it is common now a days. My ultimate chum is sixteen and pregnant. 2 of my different close pals had intercourse, one replaced into 15 and the different purely 14. additionally, i understand of four different adult males/ladies my age (sixteen) that had intercourse final year collectively as in grade 9. that's all that i understand of, i'm particular there are lots greater. and that i bypass to a small college!

Answer 9

If you treat your daughter like **** she must me really frusterated and sex eases her pain. You need to ask her what kind of changes you need to make as a mother. And make those changes if my mom ever hit me then she wouldnt know whats comming next lucky im not your daughter.

Answer 10

if you continue to tell her sex in not good then she will continue to want it more
as a parent your resource are limited when it concern her body
1-Take her to a doc for test and birth control make sure they did a batteries of test for her and have them talk to her about STD
2- have her visit a hospice or hospital that take care of AIDS patients (that does the trick for many parents)
3- get as much info on teenage pregnancies & teenagers that have AIDS (BECAUSE BELEIVE IT OR NOT THEIR IS A LOT OF TEENAGERS WITH AIDS)
Hope that help
Good Luck
& God Bless