I have been going out with a guy for about 2 years now and my parents still dont like him. I wanted to make the right decision and please my parents so i broke up with him. I love him and he loves me, but i really broke his heart. Now i want him to take me back, because i realized i made the wrong decision. He tells me he is really confused one part of him tells him to take me back but the other tells him that i might do it again. What can i say or do to convince him i wont do it again that i made the wrong choice and that i regret it, and i want him back. Help me!!!!!!
2007-01-11 02:20:43 · 9 answers · asked by carla_mendoza005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't believe someone actually said to try to get pregnant by him! DON'T do that! Trust me, that will only complicate things more. Going through a pregnancy and having a baby together is the biggest test for a relationship. Not to mention, in a lot of cases, it can ruin a relationship. With things being the way they are, that's the last thing you want to do. I would tell him how you feel, and that although your parents approval is important to you, you realize that it is more important to follow your heart. Be sure that this is what you want before you do this, b/c you don't want to hurt him again. I would take things slowly, maybe even start over as friends, if that helps, and is possible. That's all you can do. It is up to him after that. Good luck!
2007-01-11 02:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Luv2HelpYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand his confusion, i really think that you should have thought it through a little more than you did. you don't say how old you are but if your old enough to be making your own decision as an adult, you should not be living your life for your parents. i don't know that your going to be able to say anything to him that will assure him that this wont happen again. all you can do is keep letting him know that you made a mistake and that you love him is about all you can do. but i would not hold on to the idea of him wanting you back for to long. there will have to be a time you have to let it go.good luck. and think about your actions before you make this mistake again.
2007-01-11 10:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the reason why you broke up with him. Explain to him why it was such a mistake and let him know that you love him. You can't let your parents hold you back because they don't like him. If you love him ((and/or want to marry him)), your parent's feeling towards him shouldn't matter. I think you need to sort through your feelings and decide which is more important: Your happiness in life with a guy you love, or Your parents happiness ((which could be your ultimate demise)). Could it be that your parents are just scared that they could be 'losing' their daughter. That's another thing to consider. If you think that's what's going on, sit down and talk to your parents and try and let them know how great a guy he is, and how you can look out for yourself and you know how great he is and how he won't disappoint you ((or them for that matter)). Hope this helps and Good Luck
2007-01-11 10:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by bplaxx75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to give the relationship time. Explain why you broke up with him to him and see what he says. Also, try to understand why your parents don't like him.
Its ultimately your decision since you have to live with him for the rest of your life if you marry him.
2007-01-11 10:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has been really hurt and needs some time to get his feeling back in order. Rejection is a hard thing to accept and sometimes is hard to get past.
I would just reassure him that you love him and that you made a mistake. Give him time and be prepared in case he decides that he doesn't want to be with you anymore.
Good luck!
2007-01-11 10:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Angie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convince him that you won't do it again..... who's to say that? We don't know what the future holds.
And what about your parents feelings if you do get back together?
I think this guy is right to wonder about your actions.
2007-01-11 10:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to take a chance and trust you again. ask for a second chance,tell him you love him more than before and you made a stupid decision because of your folks. let him know it won't happen again
2007-01-11 11:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by tmpewters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to marry u . in this situation marriage is the key, once ur parents see u two getting married they will think about ur happiness and probably they will see that u two love each other and that u deserve to be with one another. or u could try to get pregnant by him.
2007-01-11 10:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u don't care what your parents think and that u love him more than anything
2007-01-11 10:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by daytona_girl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋