My wife has worked for a while in some other town, and in this time she become very independent. She explain me that she dont want to live with me annymore, and afther few weeks she decided to come home and now she claim that she love me and she want to spend the rest of his life toghether.
We have a nice kid toghether, and we love him very much; i have serious doubts about shees feling and i suspect the only reason to commeback is that she want to be cloose to our child.
What do you think about that ladies? Is that possible to change your fillings so radically and go back in such ashort time to?
2007-01-11 02:15:34 · 16 answers · asked by Nicolaie S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My 2-cents....
The answer, of course, is "who knows?" The issue, it seems is that you are having some serious doubts about her feelings for you and the relationship.
She sounds confused and it is leaving you confused as well. I would ask you about how the relationship was before she left? Have either one of you been unsatisfied or thought of leaving before? Serious fights? There is a bigger picture here than just this last development.
Bottom line: you are likely to continue to feel unsure about your relationship until you two can deal with it more directly. I would really recommend going to see someone for some couple's counseling. A therapist, minister or someone like that can help you two to discuss what you need to move forward.
2007-01-11 02:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by greenbean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is possible, yes. One time, I wanted to leave my husband because I had feelings for another man. I told my husband how I felt, but then I became very depressed about what my life would become - hopping from one man to the next, leaving when I got bored with him, it seemed like my life would become so lonely and unfulfilling. So, we're still together, it's been a year and a half since then.
I don't know about your wife, but I have hormonally-induced mood swings before my period. I'll cry easily, and start fights once in a while. I don't think guys know what it's like to go through mood swings, with no control over it, you don't even necessarily realize that it's just your hormones messing with you. Depression could be a factor, too. Brain chemicals can make you do crazy things, like leave your husband, but if you do come to your senses, you'll try to set things right. I can understand that you're wary but see how it goes. Good luck.
2007-01-11 10:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by Taco girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe these feelings of her have always been there, but she suppressed them and therefor moved out. Only now she realises what she looses, she can recognize her feelings. Let pride not be the reason for not letting her get close to you. But be carefull as well (see other answers). You have been together for a long time, so take the time and responsability now to have a very open talk, putting aside anger and pride, but not witholding anything you want to say to eachother. See what is left then.
greetings, Dr. Aram
2007-01-11 10:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Aram, from Holland with love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she was having doubts and has now come to her senses and realized that she has a husband and child at home. Try to talk to her and get her to open up. Maybe you should spend some time together as a family and as a couple.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-11 10:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Angie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that she just needed to see if she could make it on her own....maybe you do everything for her and she needed to know just what all you really do for her? Her time away may have made her appreciate what she has with you. You won't know anything unless you talk to her about it. It may have been another man. You won't know if you dont ask! She may have just needed to get herself together. See for herself she could be independent...and maybe she couldn't and has come to rely on you again. TALK to her.
A lot will depend on how you feel about her..do you love her and is your family worth you taking the time to find out what the real problem is?
2007-01-11 10:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by DONNA M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is...maybe she needed a little time away..i mean u guys do it all the time and we take your back....
and since there is a child involved you should think of the child and do not keep the mother away from the child...
but also...u need to take a look at both u and her and try and decide why she needed this space..what was missing in the marriage that she needed space..
go to counciling the both of you and see if you can salvage the marriage..if not, well at least you tried..
2007-01-11 10:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be your adoring child.. I t could be that she has relationship issues.. it could be another guy... this is very vegue. you need to try to get to the bottum of this rationally. don't ask to many questions or the wrong questions. even if you were dieing for her to come back if she came back for the wrong reasons shell just end upo leaving you again.. also its very hard to put love aside sometimes even if shes not in love with you anymore mabey your companionship means alot to her and shes having trouble letting you go. just cuz shes not in love doesn't mean she doesn't still love. this is seriuos. sit down with her get to the bottum of this before its too late
2007-01-11 10:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by leah pryor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible...sometimes time away from a situation brings the hard truth to light. Give it a try. What do you have to lose?
2007-01-11 10:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if either the relationship she began didn't work out, or that she really didn't like the other guy as well as she liked u, so now she is back and wanting to be with u.
2007-01-11 11:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't usually take a long time to determine if you've made a mistake. To answer your question, yes, it's possible.
2007-01-11 10:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by color me blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋