we more less have our on business, my husband works 24/7, if he comes in the house for 5min. i'm lucky. but let a friend drive up and he has all the time in the world and makes me feel like i'm not worthy of his time. please help i'm clueless....
2007-01-11 02:07:11 · 10 answers · asked by sillygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start paying attention to his work and friends as well. That way you will have more to talk about with him and you can show that you genuinely give a damn about what he's involved with. He will in return, hopefully, want to spend more time with you because he will feel you are "on his team" with these things.
2007-01-11 02:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to pay more attention to yourself, as well. How have you been looking these days? Have you put on a few pounds, let your split ends show, forgotten to do your nails? When's the last time you planned an evening out for the two of you? How about putting on a nice dress and having a candlelite dinner at home, when's the last time? And what about a chilled glass of wine before bed, when's the last time you guys did that?
Put a spark in the marriage and see what happens.
2007-01-11 10:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a date night for the both of you. If its once a week or every other, let him know that on that date night, no plans are to be made by either of you. Then go out and enjoy a romantic dinner, see a movie, or a play, visit a museum, what ever your interests are and then go home and light some candles, drink some wine, listen to some romantic music and go from there. I'm sure after that he will be looking forward to date night.
Good Luck.
2007-01-11 10:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well after 14 years of marriage maybe he just thinks u know how he feels about u...have u talked to him about how this makes u feel..have u tried to set up romantic things for you and him to do?
i would tell him when he gets home that as soon as he has time to relax that you and him need to have a talk, tell him how you feel because he may not know..
or meet him at the door one of these days with nothing on but a ribbon...
set up guidelines that at least once a week that it is alone time for you and him..decide what your favorite things to do are even if its a cooked meal, a good movie that you both like ... if none of this works then suggest counciling...
good luck
2007-01-11 10:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you make it 14yrs without communication because that is what you are lacking obviously. Talk to him in a calm tone tell him how this makes you feel. Scheadual a date night atleast once a month more often if you can. Tell his friends that they need to call instead of just drive up. Its time to put the romance and the spark back in your marriage you can do it.
2007-01-11 10:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop paying attention to him. Start going out with some friends for dinner. Take a day for yourself. Get your hair done for no reason. Get a manicure and pedicure. Change the way you dress a little to look a bit sexier. And don't ask him if he notices just go on with your everyday routine and stop paying attention to him and only yourself and kids if you have them.
2007-01-11 10:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should set up at least a day for you to be together. He can surely leave work one day to pay attention to the woman he married. Let him know that he needs to spend more time with you.
2007-01-11 10:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by vruiz16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing you need to tell your husband how you are feeling. i know running a business takes most of your time but if has time for his freinds then he should spend that time with you. good luck hope things work out.
2007-01-11 10:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it time to sit down with your hubby and tell him your feeling. in a marriage things always change and if you don't keep up with the changes you are out of the loop. as of now your are out of the loop and your need to talk to you hubby and get back on it. and if he does not lesson to you use the sex card and get what you wont.
2007-01-11 10:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lay it on the line with him. There's nothing magical that you can do to hint to him that you need more time with him. Say it as you see it.
2007-01-11 10:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋