About a month and a half ago I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and I have been on meds ever since. My problem is is that I am leading myself to believe that I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend. When this all started I wasnt attracted to him or anything, and couldnt stand anything he did although I needed him around. Now the problem is getting better I am now attracted to him again but still the little things are driving me crazy. I want to know if I love him or not. I still trust him, and do nice things for him I still want to hang out with him and care about him I just cant feel love. Before this all happened (actually 4 days before this all happneed) I wrote him a list of 101 reasons why I loved him....Now I look at the list and I know that I felt that way but I cant get those emotions back.
Do you think I have fallen out of love with him or is it just my anxiety that is making me think these irrational thoughts. I want then to go away!!! I want to love him again!
2007-01-11 01:53:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Obviously anxiety is a contributing factor in this, since 4 days before you were afflicted with anxiety you wrote him a note detailing 101 reasons why you love him. I think you have anxiety and this is not helping you. I think you probably still love him. Read your own reasons again and again.
2007-01-11 01:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice, not a feeling. Emotions change according to hormones, daylight, diet, medication, so many things. If you are truly committed to this guy you will discount the passing feelings and stick by your choice, if he is worth it.
True love is a committment. It is not about gratification, or how he makes you feel, or attraction. If he has been there for you while you go through this, you should choose to love him.
I have Anxiety big time myself. It is not a good idea to make life decisions while you are first fighting anxiety. It really messes up your head. Wait untill you get used to anxiety, and understand what it is and what it does to you. You can often overcome it simply by realizing there is nothing to really be afraid of and that your feelings are lying to you.
Star Wars was wrong. Dont trust your feelings! They will lie to you.
2007-01-11 10:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me like you were ever really in love with him. You may LIKE him - but even that's in doubt. You probably have good sex - and that's a whole different matter! I think you should take a good look at those things that irritate you. They're NOT related to anxiety. Anyway, anxiety doesn't diminish your good emotions. They're still there, even if you are too wound up to express them. It sounds like you should feel free to move on.
2007-01-11 10:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made the mistake millions have. Taking brain chemical altering drugs to fix a bad relationship. It won't fix it.
2007-01-11 10:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is due to anxiety
2007-01-11 10:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋