Gay marriage: please take this question seriously?

Question

I would like to know, in a rational and calm way, if you are against gay marriage, how do you think that the wedding of two people you've probably never met directly affects your life and infringes on your freedoms?

Answer 1

Akkita- the fact that you would have to say that you'll do your best to remain calm about an issue that, if you're being honest, doesn't touch your personal life at all, speaks volumes.

Frankly, if two consenting adults fall in love and want to commit to one another for the rest of their lives, forsaking all others, WHY IS THAT A BAD THING?

Since when are love and commitment negative qualities in a relationship?

And as for those who have a problem with the word "marriage" in conjunction with gay marriage - why? It's a WORD, people. And it's a word that people should be allowed to use. PEOPLE, not "straight people."

If you are straight, how would you feel if the government told you that you couldn't marry the person you love because George Bush doesn't approve of that person? Would you just shrug and accept it and move on?

I think not.

This country is not run by the Bible, people. And for those who argue that the Bible says homosexuality is a sin - the Bible says that a lot of things YOU do are a sin as well - for instance, menstruation, ladies. We're all going to hell. Men - if you talk to a woman who has her period, you're going to hell too. Check out Levicitus.

Time to grow up and face the fact that not everything should be legislated, and that one of those things is a wedding.

Answer 2

I will do my best to be calm .....
I do not believe in gay marriage - mainly based on my religious beliefs. I am uncomfortable with the fact everyone must be politically correct on every issue. Religiously as a Christian this issue to me isn't proper. If I was a Muslim or Hindu or Buddhist saying that - no one would attack me. So my freedom of religion is not as important.

As for you argument is "how do you think that the wedding of two people you've probably never met directly affects your life and infringes on your freedoms".

It affects me as any other issue that is decided in the courts. It has been placed on the ballot in many states and voted on. Still that is not good enough - in Massachusetts the voters are currently fighting for their right to decide but their elected legislators are saying let the court decision rule not the people. That doesn't seem right - if it is so important let all the people vote.

Answer 3

The problem is with the loose term of the word "marriage." Marriage in religion is a sacred sacrement. Marriage in terms of how the government recognizes it and why the government encourages it is completely different.

To say they are the same is simply not true. For instance, who's religious definition of marriage are we following? The original Christians, the Catholics, don't recognize divorce, and therefore would not recognize second and subsequent marriages, or their children as legitimate.

I'm against goverment sanctioning gay marriage. I'm also against government sanctioning of heterosexual marriage. The government definition has nothing to do with whether it's a holy sacrement or not. The holiness of marriage springs from the church, religion and the people involved.

The government should recognize and call all of these "civil unions" or "domestic partnerships" to take the religious context out of how government handles it. Eventually, in a few decades, I'm fairly confident that the people and the courts will eventually settle on this as a solution. The government deals with the secular concerns, and what those involved call it amongst themselves and the meaning that word has is up to them. The government calling the sacrement of Communion "bread eating" wouldn't change what I call it, nor my church, for instance.

Two gay men or two lesbian women shouldn't affect anyone's marriage or potential for marriage. How would two guys, who are interested in other guys and not women affect men and women who are interested in people who are also interested in the opposite sex?

Gay marriage is only a threat to those who are perilously close to being pushed over the edge - those in outright denial, or who are living a double life in the closet.

Answer 4

The common excuses are discomfort and "the sanctity of marriage." However, discomfort just takes getting used to (after all, equal rights for the different groups didn't come easily) and as for t"the sanctity of marriage, well, it's messed up already and by preventing gay marriage, it's even more messed up than it is now. Preventing guys from being together (or any of the other combos) means that the man would marry a woman and later prove unfaithful, causing all types of drama.

Answer 5

You asking a very emotional question and now it is time you understand something.

People don't like change and rather keep things the way they are and people above all else don't like it being force onto them especially by the courts.

Need an example: Abortion (enough said about that subject)

Marriage is not a right written in the constitution. Save the court ruling argument because that goes to my first point about things force upon by the courts.

So lets talk about gay marriage. 1st the best way to handle it is like Wisconsin by establishing civil contracts between two people.
This has given people in Wisconsin time to adjust and understand the reasoning behind it. That there are couples that need to make legal decisions in matters of property and medical decisions that they need to make not the state or other family matters. Which I do support those kind of contracts. I know gay couples that have adopted and make great parents.

Now when you put it to a public vote those for it call those against it bigots, homophobes, etc. Doesn't win be people over to their side. If I insult you long enough tell me you start agreeing with me. Every time it does go the public vote it is voted down even in CA, OR, and MI all pretty liberal states. This should be a red flag maybe you are not doing a good job-winning people over.

All the hate rants that go on don't solve the issue. Personally I think homosexuality is a sin and having churches thinking is OK is wrong. Now with that out of the way let me also say this there are lots of sins and to me homosexuality is among them all just like sex outside a marriage. I have to work on myself on whole host of issues before I can go out an protest against homosexuality.

Take the civil rights movement it was the courts but by laws pass that made civil rights law in the nation.

So if Mary wants to marry Mary that is their business to make it legal and be codifying into law that is my business and I have right to express my views. Just like you. I just happen to think there is better way to handle this issue than the way gay activists are doing it now.

The best way to do it is go for civil contracts and leave marriage out of it, after a time when people get use to the idea than move on to marriage licenses for everyone.
Shoving it and name-calling will only cause more hate against the gay community.
After listening to Mary Chenny and reading her book I do have great amount of respect for her and willing to listen to what she has to say than having someone scream in my face.


It would be better instead of asking those against gay marriage better to ask those who are for it can’t we do this better?

Answer 6

I'm a Lutheran dude. If you want to marry someone of the same sex, go ahead. I believe most of our concerns are about adoption. I guess we feel that a legally recognized marriage would have to be considered for a potential adoption. It is my feeling that a kid needs both a masculine and feminine parent. However, I guess that's possible anyway. That's my best answer.

Answer 7

While I am agaisnt gay marriage, I will not be out protesting it or anything. For me its just not natural. But in our society right now marriage has lost most of its meaning anyway.

If gays are granted rights to marry it really wont affect me directy.

I only believe that it is not natural, I do not hate gay people or anything.

Answer 8

I think that any two people who love each other should have the right to be a family just the same as anyone else. It doesn't affect ME, and it certainly doesn't hurt MY marriage.

Answer 9

If 2 people are in love let them get married. If that is what it takes for 2 people to be happy, then more power to them. Sadly 2 gays becoming married will probably cause more than 2 religious nuts to become unhappy... thats a fair trade if you ask me....

Answer 10

I see no harm in witnessing or knowing that gay couples get married. America is a free country!!!


P.S.

GOOD LUCK TO ALL THE GAY COUPLES WHO PLAN TO MARRY SOMEDAY ♥


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