My boyfriend started showing a different face after 1 and a half months. He wants to make a familyplan under my mobile phone, he asks for really expensive vacations and when I tell him the reason why I cannot, he shows anger and frustration. He kicks the walls, throws objects around me and he wants to limit me seeing my friends. When I talk to a friend on the phone even for a minute, he perceives that as an insult and disrespect. He yells at me when I do not do the things his way. He always makes the things problematic and suffocates me. I do not have space anymore, sometimes I feel like I am getting suffocated and I told him that I do not want to baby-sit him. I will stand by him in good moments and bad moments bu he doesn't want to understand i do have a day job and hobbies and he wants me to cut all these. I think I love him but I am not sure if this is love from his perspective. I am feeling down most of the time besides good moments. Is this love?
2007-01-11 01:14:13 · 9 answers · asked by joe b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
nee... this ain't love
i think ur boyfriend is trying to control u
he's probably a difficult person, who can't control his anger(u said he kicks the walls and throws objects around u)
maybe i'd be better to stay away from him
u can get hurt :(
i'm sorry 4 u 'cause u're feeling down
try 2 cheer up :) and take the right decision
good luck!
2007-01-11 01:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Charlyssie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really want to rain on your day, but I think the person that you are dating needs to grow up a bit more, his to controlling and should learn that you have other things to do then just spend time with him 24/7 he has to understand that you had a life before you meet him and your going to have a life with him but also with out him.....You had friends before him and he has to understand that...I would advice you to let him know how you feel if he doesn't understand then I guess the best thing to do would be to move on......sorry!
2007-01-11 01:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry didnt even get to the third sentence... Leave this gold digging nut... There are way to many nice, sane guys out there... If this nut is in your home. Go get an eviction , and court order to keep him away.
2007-01-11 08:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by gimlost2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not love in any way, he wants to control you.
Sit down and talk about it or i can see no future in you as a couple, this kind of thing generally does not improve.
2007-01-11 01:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Bladerunner (Dave) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like love, it sounds like someone using you (or trying to anyway) to get what they want.
As Horrible as it sounds, it seems like it's time to kick this one to the curb. Unless he really changes his attitude, you two will end up hating each other within 6 months.
2007-01-11 01:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BF sounds hot. Is he cute? I enjoy masc, dominant aggression. Yumsters !!
2007-01-11 01:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. In no way is this love. do yourself a favor and RUN away from this relationship,
2007-01-11 01:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be what he considers love - I call it possessiveness. It'll hurt you but I say ditch him.
2007-01-11 01:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run.
2007-01-11 01:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋