why do some people committ to suicide?

Question

In my previous question I meant this & most of you thought that I wanted to committ to suicide I am a looser but I love my life with my kind family.

Answer 1

No offense but it's "loser" one o.

Depression is the primary cause, and the sense that an end is preferable to hopelessness. In my opinion it's a cowards choice, and damages those left behind.

You define yourself as a loser, but admit to having a love of your life and family. That's kind of oxymoronic. Again, no offense.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, any one even vaguely considering it, should seek professional help beyond Q&A.

Related to this I watched a show on PBS last night. It dealt with Women in China, and the suicide rate among that gender. It's outrageous, but again, brought on by depressions.

You should probably start by outlining your life. Example: No sarcasm meant in this. A Chinese menu offers column A and column B, and we get to choose from either. Your outline, or list, or balancing the "books" so to speak, with regard to your life, should state the pros and cons.

Life and family, and your admitted love for both should far outweigh anything else on the other side of the scale. BTW. Many of us feel inadequate, unable, inept, ignorant at times. The trick to overcoming those is admitting what causes exist creating the assumptions that we are the above. Then creating ways to NOT be the above.

I also suggest, don't "expect", just live. Take life in smaller doses, more easily manageable segments, BABY STEPS even, until you notice even minor goals achieved, and successes adding to your "Bank Account."

The dichotomy in "glass half Empty" thinking is that at the same time it must logically be "half Full."

Steven Wolf
(The Rev.)

Answer 2

The main reason people commit suicide is becasue the people around then dont' care enough about them to make certain that they have a reason to continue living. It IS that simple. I expect those that have known someont that commited suicicde to object, but think about this...why do people feel that alone and helpless? They feel that way because the people around them have forgotten about them, abanodned them, have allowed them to believe that they are that alone...IF people had friends and family taht they could count on, that would stand WITH them...that when help was needed would say only two things, "What do you need?' and "We'll take care of it." No questions abvout if it CAN be done, or if it SHOULD be done. It simply gets done. Period. That is the kind of support that these people need in order to stay alive and everytime we do otherwise was take the risk that that failure could be the thing that pushes that person over the edge and risks their life. Better an honest failure than dishonest lipservice that means nothing.

Answer 3

This is a hard question to answer but my opionon is that you have to look at the person that wants to commit suicide. Some commit suicide because of things that happened in the past like different kinds of abuse. Some do it because of drugs. Some may even do it because they have legal or money problems. It all depends on the indiviual of why they would commit suicide.

Answer 4

They do it because they can't take life anymore. You can work yourself out of every situation, but if you keep getting knocked down it's tough. Almost everyone considers suicide in their life at some point or another, it's normal. The degree with which they consider it varies from person to person based on circumstances. Everyone should just hang in their and work towards something positive, it may take time but when you get there, you'll look back and say "What was I thinking?"

Answer 5

All this crap about faith in god is ridiculous. Some suicides are atheist, some are members of religions with many gods. Some may believe in god, but after watching their entire family get gunned down for $20, they might not give a rusty crap if god has a plan for them, they just want no part of it.

Answer 6

Some people have just a few priorities, without fulfilling which, they feel they have no purpose to exist.
So, when they judge that their priorities cannot happen, find no reason to live.

Answer 7

i think it's the feeling of no more hope / solution in life & the burdens of it that some people don't have the mental & emotional strength to handle

Answer 8

I guess in frustration over not being useful any more in this world

Answer 9

hehehe

well people do that mostly because they dont believe

dont believe in thierselves
dont believe that life had briight and dark sides
dont believe in love of others (tere have to be one)
dont believe first of all of GOD support and wisdom

Answer 10

I have personally stopped several suicides in my life, so I have a little experience in this field.

The first guy I stopped was trying to jump out of a moving car in traffic. He was a drug addict and alcoholic and was wanted for vehicular homicide in Singapore for killing a girl by running over her while driving while drunk. He kept driving drunk for years and years which tells me a drunk is one selfish SOB if they can kill and keep driving drunk.

I believe that the chemicals in illegal drugs and alcohol create a chemical unbalance in the brain and this makes the person depressed enough to want to kill themselves. To be a drug addict or alcoholic pretty much means that you are not living the life God meant for you anyway. You live life your way and want to die as a result of it. Chemical addictions kill the human spirit.

The next guy had a long history of murder and drug abuse. He confessed his crimes like he was talking about a Sunday afternoon fishing trip. No remorse at all.

He had served time in prison for murder and for causing a death while driving while drunk. He had attempted suicide many times in the past, too. His father commited suicide by gunshot because he had cancer.

This man (who was well into his forties when I knew him) had a phobia of being alone. He simply couldn't be alone and would let all kinds of terrible people into his life. They brought their shabby lifestyle habits with them and he followed right behind them with drug abuse (meth, pot, and coke) and alcohol consumption.

This man was on clever manipulator, too. Pretty good with pathetic stories of how alone he was only to get what he wanted. Most suicide types are clever manipulators. I label them as emotional blackmailers. You do as they say or they will kill themselves. This use to upset me terribly, but now it doesn't because of this guy.

One night, he attempted suicide by taking at least 20 amytriptiline (30 in the bottle according to the label.) When I discovered what he was doing, I snatched the pill bottle from his hand and tossed the remaining pills outside. I told him I was about to call 911 so he could have his stomach pumped when he told me he would tell the cops that I was lying and would be arrested. I believed him because he had cop friends, so I waited for him to start showing signs of taking so much dope at once. Well, three hours go by and he is still alert and functioning. Me, I am dog tired from spending three days camping, fishing, and having good clean fun. So, I figured he was pulling another attention getting stunt again. (Remember, he was always threatening suicide.) I searched for more pill bottles and didn't find any before going to bed, so I'm thinking everything is okay and he's just lonely again. I go to the back bedroom to lie down and rest while he takes a shower. The last thing I remember is him laying down on the bed.

I don't know what time it was when I felt someone jumping on the bed. Bleary-eyed, I woke up and this guy is having a seizure. A full blown grand mal seizure. I freaked totally. Called 911 and then noticed an huge and empty pill bottle (120 count) on the bedside table that hadn't been there before I had conked out from too much fun and sun.

For a one-legged fat man, he was bouncing off and on the bed like a demon was pounding him like a basketball.

The police and ambulance show up and haul him off to the VA hospital where the doctors gave him a 1 percent chance in living. I prayed and prayed for him as I waited in the lounge area of the VA hospital. I was so upset and crying. Crying wasted tears as I've gotten much older and look back on this event.

It wasn't too long after that that I quit having anything to do with him. Emotionally, I couldn't bear having someone like him in my life anymore. If he did succeed in commiting suicide, well that was his problem.

During the next six months and at least once a month, he would call me threatening suicide. I would get upset and beg him not to. But, six months of this crap was enough and in exasperation one night, I told him to go ahead that I had had enough. He had threatened to go into his bathroom and blow his brains out like his father did and that I would inherit all his stuff. I told him in a deadly calm voice to go outside for if he commited suicide in the house, it might devalue it. He never called me again. He died alone in 2005 from heart disease. I don't miss this loser at all.

Locked a miserable and drunk guy out of his car one night, so he wouldn't drive home drunk and have a deliberate wreck. Made him sleep on my front porch, too. That was sort of funny, because the cats I had thought he was a new cat and snuggled up next to him to stay warm. LOL

From my life's experiences with people who attempt to commit suicide or threaten it often, get the police involved. Fill out a police report and walk away from this person as fast as you can. Run!