We've been together for more than 4 years. But suddenly his parents arrange his marriage with someone. He doesnt give answer yet, but seems that he gonna say yes. N seems that I cant do anything. What should I do? I cant live without him...
2007-01-11 01:13:11 · 14 answers · asked by licca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'll just have to live without him. If he's going to marry you, he can't be your boyfriend anymore.
You can tell him how you feel, but if he still wants to marry her - that's life. Sorry.
2007-01-11 01:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend you, possibly, getting some therapy to help you get through a very emotional time in your life. Believe me, I've been where you are. However, you must stop telling yourself you can't live without him. The more you tell yourself that, the more you will believe it. YOU CAN AND WILL LIVE WITHOUT HIM. He should not be your life. You are your life. You must believe that and accept it.
When my wife wanted to be with another man, I was devastated. My world came crumbling down it seems. But I bounced back. Stronger and smarter than before.
If your boyfriend wants to honor his parents by marrying someone else instead of being with you, then you MUST let him go and move on with your life. NEVER EVER lay yourself down for anyone. It's the biggest mistake you can make. Since he doesn't have the "balls" to stand up for you, then make sure you have the "balls" to stand up for yourself.
2007-01-11 01:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by powrbruh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 4 years I would hope that his parents knew about you. Maybe it is a cultural thing? It is all up to him on what he decides to do. You can live without him. If he is not strong enough to stand against his family then not much you can do. Seems like you were conned Good Luck
2007-01-11 01:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by glasgowgone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to marry this woman, he needs to be a grown man and tell his parents that he prefers to do the choosing of the woman he will spend the rest of his life with. If you live in a culture where marriages are arranged by the parents, he needs to talk to his parents and tell them that he loves you and if they don't want to see him miserable the rest of his life, they will have to choose the woman he loves, which would be you.
2007-01-11 01:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a great opportunity for you to go back to school and get an education, licca! Once you get an education, and learn to write well in English, you will have more opportunities. There will be many more men in your life. To say you "cannot do anything" is to admit defeat. You lived before him, you'll be able "to live without him."
2007-01-11 01:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by WMD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together with this guy you must be really HOT and special. I'll bet if you put your mind to it, you can find another b/f or potential marriage partner out of the billion or so eligible guys out there. Maybe one even better or at least better suited to you. I'm rooting for you!
Trust me, there are a lot of guys out there who are interested in meeting you!
2007-01-11 01:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Steve W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he doesnt have a set to stand up for what he wants, then hes not worth crying over, you need a man that can make his own choses and can love a woman that he wants not others control his life, your better off without him, it would only cause trouble in the future with his aprents and they wont accept you, and he will have to make a choice and he will choose his parents over you.o
2007-01-11 01:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a good idea to start bulding a support group of friends and family. Prepare yourself in case he accepts the arranged marriage. If he does, I suggest you distance yourself and start working on your own wishes and dreams. Work on healing and taking care of yourself.
2007-01-11 01:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say definitely move on. If his parents arrangegd the wedding, then there's nothing you can do about it! It's a fact of life! There's plenty of other guys out there that would marry you!
2007-01-11 01:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can live without him! You must realize that now, or seek counseling!
If there's nothing you can do about it, just try and move on as soon as possible, so your mind doesn't think dumb thoughts about him being the only MAN.
Good luck. Get to a therapist.
2007-01-11 01:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋