If my boyfriend decides he does not want anything to do with our baby, 9i am pregnant now and he wants me to have an abortion, but i won't so i think he is gonna break up with me and i told him he could sign away his rights) so if he does should I tell his mom about the baby and give her the oppratunity to be in the childs life? I think she would want to know, but is that over steping my boundries?
2007-01-11 00:51:49 · 11 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i am not looking for additioal support, I just know how much she loves her grandchildren and want to give her the oppratunity to be a part of this ones life.
2007-01-11 01:02:29 · update #1
I would tell her, but wait a while to see if he changes his mind and tells her himself.
2007-01-11 00:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you live in the USA he can't sign over his rights unless you agree. If he chooses not to sign the birth certificate then you can have paternity testing ordered and get child support for the child regardless of his opinion. It took two to make the child.
Having a child is very scary when you are not prepared I have seen alot of guys come around after the child is born and they see the baby. I hope this happens for you.
As for the grandmother, I agree that she should have opportunity to know her grandchild. However I would wait until the baby is born. Give your guy some time to come around and hopefully he will welcome this child and tell his parents himself. If not then I do think she has a right to know.
Good Luck to you, your boyfriend and child. A child deserves both parents to love, care for them and nurture them!
2007-01-11 09:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by Julzz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you have support through your family or friends, i would not involve her. if you have no one, it may be a good idea to have some advise or friendship from someone who has a child/children of their own. as far as the baby missing out on grandma when shes born, don't sweat it. if the father decides not to have anything to do with the baby, why would you confuse and hurt the baby more? being in touch with part of his family while he remains absent will only cause your child heartache when they realize there's no father around. trust me, you can raise a perfectly normal and healthy child without the bio dad around. so my suggestion is not to confuse the child. oh, and by the way, you are worrying way to much this early in your pregnancy. try and stay more positive.i promise it will keep you feeling better mentally and physically.
2007-01-11 09:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by N I K I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because HE doesn't want anything to do with the baby. It is not fair to your baby, the grand mother or you to hid this info. It will haunt you forever. Plus when your child grows up, she/he will start asking questions and when she/he finds out you hind this..you will regret is and she/he may resent you. Plus another grand parent can be great support.
Good Luck and love your baby enough for the both of you...with all your heart and soul. Your child is a precious gift !!!
2007-01-11 09:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by whatelsewhatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its you body, he should of thought about it sex sometimes doesn mean babies, unless you've protected, but remembeer some pretections only 99 percent!
Is this bloke worth it, if you tell his mumthen might make things harder, if he was older and responasily enought he would of told his mother the suituation!
And not given you a chose over your unborn baby and being with him! his just being selfish! and well if it means bring a baby into the world with no father, its not end of the world, as long as you have support from your family and friends!
good luck!
2007-01-11 09:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her after all she is not the 1 who is walking away from the baby he is
the baby has the right to know the rest of his/her family dont let your boyfriend take that away from your child.
you are going to be a mother so now thats the most important person in your life not your boyfriend!!!
good luck i hope it all works out for you x x x x
2007-01-11 09:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be good to let her know her grandchild and will enhance the childs life to have grandma in it. He may yet change his mind about the child so I would wait but remember that his mom may want you to prove its her grandchild first.
2007-01-11 10:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself. Telling her is his responsibility, should he choose to do so. By deciding to keep this baby, you're accepting responsibility - by yourself. Don't start reaching out to his family for support or anything. It's your decision - deal with it yourself. On your OWN
2007-01-11 09:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her. i would. it's the baby's right to have family. even if his/her father is an idiot.
2007-01-11 09:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by just that girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be overstepping. Besides, what if she sued you for custody or visitation. In most states, she has the right. Protect yourself and your child.
2007-01-11 09:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋