its been more than 3 years that iam going around with ma bf,n we both loved eachother,never had sex,he was not that kinda a guy who just wants sex,we had pure nice relation,but for 2 months i was not there,n one more gal came in his life,n told him that y r u with here? at that time i was having a fight him,now last night i came to know that they had sex,n they were both hidding from me,cause my bf tought i'll get hurt,he cheated me,he did whatever thath gal wanted to just keep her shut,iam just dying now,its been 2 days iam crying,what can i do? i still cant beilieve it..plz..just wanna die now,how can u call them a human?
2007-01-11 00:51:03 · 25 answers · asked by S S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
n now he says i just love u,but that gal forced me to have sex with her,she came on top of me,n did everything.wow !!!
2007-01-11 00:54:48 · update #1
iam really thankfull to u all,to help me,the thing is iam outta my country,n iam studying here,but i have no friends here,no one except him,all guys wanted to b ewith me,but i ignored everyone cause of him,cause i always wanted to be with one person n die with only,iam hurt like hell,i cant sleep,cant eat,iam just taking painkillers,iam lost,have no one to speak to,n on top of that iam living alone,iam just waiting for ur answers,god bless u all
2007-01-11 01:14:21 · update #2
i say you leave that man for one of his closes friendds
2007-01-11 00:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by B.B. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not a very unusual problem.
being in a relation for 3 yrs is a big thing. it means that for three years u n ur bf have been living up ur dreams.
one more thing ....u told that he is hiding from u bcoz he feel that u might get hurt....this shows that he is concerned for u...where as in other case guys hide bcoz they fear that their gf might leave them etc etc.
more over this is the time u can call this relation off or u can make this relation such that no other girl can cross ur life.....dude problems are oppurtunities grab them.
having sex is totally an physical activity . he did it both enjoyed it .....now what.
so now he is stuck....big time.
by doing this he had come into a fault now its ur turn to take the relation where ever u feel like.
if u really dont like even looking at him an feel that he looks like a looser then dump him right away. life is very wierd and exciting.
u may feel that whatever happened happened for good, after a period of time.
follow ur instinct and let him suffer.
stay with him but just as a friend and dont even let him touch u.
u be in his life but still away from him. this will make him realise his mistake.
ALWAYS TAKE A RATIONAL DECISION FOR AN EMOTIONAL PROBLEM....
2007-01-11 01:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Dipendra n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honey, you can't call them human/ They acted like dogs in heat. I'm sorry to say that you've got to say asta la vista, baby, to this guy. He may seem like your whole life and 3 years is a long time, but if you weren't having sex you really didn't have a relationship. He may have been a good friend, but not a mate. Take a shower, fix your hair and makeup, dress up in a cute outfit and get out of there for awhile. Hopefully, you have a job and don't live with him. Look for your own place is you do live with him. He's not worth your tears and heartache. He may have been comfortable, but he wasn't your mate, so go find someone who deserves you. If you live near a college campus, contact student housing or something like that to see if there are any girls looking for a roommate. Best wishes.
Sorry, he's a liar. He put himself in this situation. And how many times did she "force" him.
2007-01-11 01:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your situation. My advice is that most people who cheat in relationships will continue to cheat. It takes along time to gain trust back, and sometimes you will never completely trust that person, and you may make yourself sick with worry. I would advise to end the relationship. Talk to friends, family, maybe a therapist and work your feelings out. DO NOT feel bad about yourself, it is not your fault he cheated, He cheated because he is selfish, he put his psychical needs about your emotional needs and of course your relationship. You will heal from this and move on...remember that...you will look back at this someday and laugh. Meanwhile after you have healed... start dating again (no rebounding). You will most likely find a good man and your soul mate some day. Remember not to be hard on yourself...it is his issue not yours....good luck
2007-01-11 01:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by rustoleum1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you understand that boys lie, you should be just fine for the next relationship. If your boyfriend had sex with that girl it was because he wanted to. You need to realize that he was the one at fault. It wouldn't have mattered who the other person was, he would have still done it. Better to have found out now. These are called life lessons. This is what makes us stronger for the crap we need to deal with later in life. I suggest staying away from boys and focus on school. They don't tend to start really making sense until after 21. Good luck and GOD bless.
2007-01-11 01:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he isnt worth your time gf ... he didnt appreciate you ... you can find a guy a lot better than that and i like the fact that you are waiting til marriage that is a real special quality that you have and you have to find someone that respects that because clearly he didnt .... you dont need his bullshit ... great guys are out there ... just take the time and be friends first relationship second ... it will last a lot longer that way and you can see before you get in the next relationship what kind of guy he really is
2007-01-18 16:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy really loved you he would have never let some girl get so close to him...I say leave him, as much as it may hurt. There are a few good guys out there and it is very hard to find them, but don't rush it. Patience is a virtue, and you will get over him and find someone way better.
2007-01-18 08:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by Laura G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry about all that you're going through. I think what you need to do is stay as far away from him as you can. Get somthing to keep you busy so that you can get him off your mind. He cheated on you and that means you can no longer trust him. When he had sex with her he did not think of how you'd feel and therefore he's not worth your tears. Get a hold of yourself and forget about him. You'll get someone who will truly love and be faithful to you. All the best
2007-01-11 01:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Curious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he'd just made a mistake out of weakness after not having sex for three years, I'd say forgive him. But he said she forced him? That sounds like a lie. A cheater AND a liar isn't worth it. I'm sorry.
2007-01-17 14:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your man if he is going to lie get it right. he was naked and tripped and fell into her. if she did it that would be rape. get away from him, and find someone else worthy of you. now you don't know if she was any stds or not? so now if you do sleep with him you might get them.
i was with a cheater once before. he left my house went and picked up his best friends girl. took them to his house and did what they did. the next day i called him on it. he says they were jst talking. so i believed him for 3 more yrs. after we broke up i made him sit down and tell me all of the crap he has done to me. i found out that he cheated about 3 more times. so i went to the doctor and found out that, because of him i have 2 stds.
run, run away fast. don't let any man drag you down. tell him to come up with beter lies than she did it. it always takes two!!!
2007-01-18 13:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by foosarat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be strong and leave him. my mom always told me "if he does it once,he'll do it again" and its true from experience.it might hurt to leave him because you have built up i relationship, but he is using the excuse" i didnt wanna hurt you" as a cover up.if he didnt wanna hurt you, then he wouldnt have cheated in the first place.be strong and dont shead a tear over him, cause there is allway someone bigger and better out there for you.and if he is smart he'll know he lost a good woman over a hoe.
2007-01-11 01:04:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋