Could this be love...?

Question

I've never had a close relationship with my parents and they haven't supported me neither financially or emotionaly.
When I was a child I resented them for that, but now my feelings turned into a sort of indiference....
They say they love me, but they let all what they possesed to my sister. Is this love? Or am I judging them too hard?

Answer 1

i would say u are judging them to hard i belive they do love u

Answer 2

I would say no, parents don't always feel true love for a child, depends on the circumstances of you being born i suppose. I feel that way and have never felt a bond or been supported other than some financial.

Answer 3

Love is a very subjective thing. For example, I thought I loved my first boyfriend but when I look back, it was nothing compared to the love I feel for the person I'm with now.

Your parents will always love you, due to the parental bond, but if they're that unsupportive you are not judging them too hard and you owe them nothing.

Answer 4

Hi,my mam died october the 10th only then did I realise how much I love her.I was the same as you not close to parents.Im not sure if your parents are still alive however you say they left everything to your sister.My mam did the same she left my sister everything only I was not the only one left out, my other sister &
2 brothers were.None of us are bothered,maybe your parents think or thought your sister needed looking after & you can stand on your own 2 feet.Good Luck

Answer 5

Well, love means different things to different people.

It sounds as if you had a difficult time growing up, and that does happen in many families.

Try not to let it spoil your life. We can't choose our biological family, but we can choose our friends.

Put your energy into the present and future and find yourself good friends to share your love with.

You might think about talking this through in confidence with a counsellor.

Wishing you good luck.

Answer 6

Love is a matter of the heart. To often we let pride and anger drown out love. The things they left your sister are just material, but true love is much deeper.

Answer 7

It certainly seems a little unfair. Are you sure that they plan to leave everything to your sister? It is not usual for people to disclose their wills, but there is nothing to stop them doing so. Have they actually told you that. You could ask them why.

Either way, do not let it spoil your valuation of your own individuality. You are unique and, therefore, special

Answer 8

your probably old enough to hear this, but nothing on this planet can give you as much love or comfort as cold hard cash, i dont mean enough to get by on, i mean hundreds of thousands. i'm not far of the million mark. put bitterness to the side and concentrate on getting rich. you think you have it hard, i was denied food when i was a kid so my sisters could have extra to eat. my brother got to go to university i got tossed out of the house when i was 17. look after number one.

Answer 9

I think i know what ya mean, why don't ya ask them? that would be your most honest answer, it might be hard but with a gud bottle of wine and some guts you can get the answer you want. it worked for me so gud luck xxxxx

Answer 10

no matter what a parent loves their child, even if they dont know it. there is a love connection there. possessions are nothing in love. i know it seems like they didnt like you or something, but they do love you. they can be weird at times like that, maybe they just dont approve of what you are doing now with your life. but either way hun, know that no matter what your parents love you with all their hearts

Answer 11

You're your parents daughter, you are a part of them of course they love you but just don't show it in the way you want them to.