Do women enjoy being treated like crap?

Question

If I act all nice and polite - no attention. If I act like a sexist pig - ring a ding ding. Why so?

Answer 1

Women don't enjoy being treated like crap. It's the motivation factor occuring. In other words, when a man is polite and nice...they don't think anything of it...When a man acts like a sexist pig-the hair rises on the back of their necks and they want to change the man's opinion.
However-if you want attention from women...be nice and polite but try adding humor and be a little more outspoken. Women are genetically programmed to to want a protector. A man's man per say. But you don't have to act sexist to achieve that. Hope this helps

Answer 2

I think women like confidence. Sometimes men who are nice and polite are misinterpreted as being soft.

Women like a man they can feel secure with, a guy who they know doesn't give a f*ck about other people's opinions.

It's not that they want you to treat THEM like crap - they want to see that you can be strong and unaffected by the people around you when necessary. Sometimes the only time guys do this is when they are picking on the weaker sex, because they wouldn't have the balls to treat other men that way. So women might send the wrong message at that time.

I personally would enjoy being treated like crap if it allowed me the pleasure of adding another 'ar-sehole's decapitated head to my currently expanding collection.

edit- some women enjoy the drama.

Answer 3

Some women like the feeling of being controlled. Like the choices are made for them so they don't need to worry and make them themselves. This is obviously a form of repression though.

Some women like bad boys. Maybe your acting like a sexist pig is being construed as giving off that image.

Nobody with a high level of self esteem and self regard will enjoy being treated like crap and you shouldn't allow anyone who you care about to feel that way.

Relationships are about mutual respect and you couldn't respect her for allowing that and she certainly couldn't respect you.

Maybe the girls you're going after are the kind who maybe have have bad relationships in the past and struggle to see that your nice and polite attitude is for real.

I recommend sticking with it because if it is a real attitude you will convince someone to give you the attention that you are seeking and may develop a healthy and respectful partnership.

Answer 4

Some women do enjoy being treated like crap, in fact some effectivly demand that kind of treatment and will not stop being a pain in the **** until you give them what they want. That type of woman is best avoided.

I have found that most women greatly appreciate a man who knows how to act like a gentleman and knows how to make a woman feel like a lady. If you can really make a woman feel like a lady you will normally get a chance to make her really feel like a woman as well.

Answer 5

Yes they do. My mate is a sexist pig who constantly cheats on his girlfriend and everyone knows it, yet she sticks with him, while I a girl who I would have done anything for and treated with respect dumps me saying "You're a nice guy but it just won't work.".

Its not just me as well, I've seen it happen to other guys who would never have cheated on their girls. The worst about it too is that more often than not the girl still wants to be friends afterwards as if it was nothing.

Lifes a b***h.

Answer 6

Another thing to bear in mind is that many women who get a lot of attention from men often get a bit sick of being "put on a pedestal". So when a man treats them with a bit of indifference or the same way he would treat one of his mates, then it really grabs their attention!
I wouldn't say that any woman like being treated badly, but being treated as not special can be a breath of fresh air.

Answer 7

Why do men think they have the right to treat women like crap? Nice and polite is exactly what it says - nice and polite. Maybe you should add a bit of mystery and adventure!

Answer 8

Maybe it is more about 'your choice in women.'

I have a girlfriend who "likes" being abused ~ physically.

The thing is that 'she likes to be hurt' - but - 'without being harmed.'

Initially, I had problems with understanding 'this thing' in her makeup, and I realised that 'I didn't need to UNDERSTAND it,' but instead I simply 'needed to Accept It' as an important part of her makeup.

It's not 'always' an essential part of her, but there comes times when it pokes it's head up from the trench and wants to climb out and be prevalent.

I guess that in many respects that it's no different from what I understand the French used to call 'The English Disease.' English schoolboys, who'd often had their backsides thrashed, carried this forwards into their adult life and sought out prostitutes to carry this out for them.

Her pleasure is in seeing my passion and in having my 'taking it out on her' (and my stipulation is that there is 'No Injury' to her).

On the other side of this coin, I've been in the same boat as you (as has my brother who lives in LA). Be the nice guy (who I believe I am) and you tend to get 'looked down on.'

Three girlfriends of my brother have each gone back to their ex's whom, by all accounts, treated them like little better than dogs and walked all over their feelings.

If emotions were mathematics, then we'd me in deep smeg as nothing would add up ~ no engineering or science etc would / could possibly work.

Sash.

Answer 9

some women like nice men, but most dont. i found this out a long time ago. so i changed my attitude, you dont need to treat women like crap but you can respectfully tell them right away not to get too attached because you have no intention of being around them for too long. dont act any different than you are, be polite nice and respectful you just have to be able to distance yourself from emotions. if any woman wants to change you, get rid. the women who really really like nice men are usually out for revenge and will seek out the innocent to hurt them.

Answer 10

Because your sexist pig side shows off your masculinity, which females are attracted to. Most nice guys are just big puss ies.