And..how'd you get through it? My loneliest time is now...my husband works out of town..he won't be able to come home until April. I have no kids to look after..I don't have a job at the moment.. I'm depressed and in counseling. I don't even feel like cleaing house..I mean for who? Nobody sees it but me...It's lonely when you realize that you don't have anyone to take care of..(except my dogs)..and feel if something ever happened to you..who would even know? My parents care...but, we don't talk everyday.....
2007-01-11 00:08:51 · 17 answers · asked by Hear2Help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Plus I have physical ailments..arthritis..which is why I'm not working now. Nurse-34...can't stand on my feet all day anymore. I know alot of the depressions stems from not being able to function normally on a daily basis.
2007-01-11 00:21:34 · update #1
Yes, I am planning to take a trip to Calif. where he is working and in school. And.. then I think to myself "okay, that will take up one week...now what will I do with the other 26?...lol"
2007-01-11 00:22:47 · update #2
AMERICAN BEAUTY..find an ounce of compassion in your crappy life ..why dontcha...
2007-01-11 00:26:10 · update #3
Hmm american beauty edited the "grow up" comment.
2007-01-11 00:27:58 · update #4
I feel for you bou bou..and our own cases may not be the worst..but how do you measure the degree of loneliness that another feels....BEst Wishes to..you.
2007-01-11 01:34:10 · update #5
I feel for you, I have often felt like you. It is one of the main symptoms of depression. You feel trapped in your own body sometimes, but at the same time you don't want to even use the energy it takes to get out of bed. I've been there, and my husband has always been with me, I was never actually alone. I just felt that way. Continue your counseling and ask about medications. Some people are against them, but if you really need them they do work, it just takes a little time to find the best ones at the best dose. My only question is.....If you aren't working and don't have any kids, just dogs, why can't you spend more time in California with your husband than 1 week?
Take care of yourself. Always remember that you are not alone and somebody does love you. Even if it doesn't always feel like it to you.
2007-01-11 00:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess my loneliest time in life would have to be when l found out my husband had been having an affair and we separated briefly last year. All good now though. I only had one child living at home and he is 23, he was a slight comfort l guess but he was always doing his own thing. I got through it all with the help of some very good and close friends. If you don't feel like cleaning then don't do it , honestly who cares. Worry about beating your depression and becoming well again, after all that's what is really important. Cheer up. Things can only get better as you sound so low at the moment. Perhaps speak to your husband about getting a job that does not require him to spend so much time away from home as l am sure he misses you terribly also. Hope this helped even a little. Best of luck to you
2007-01-11 00:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you intend to sit around and mope until April? What's wrong with you? You live in the house; clean it up for your own comfort. And as far as taking care of someone, do a better job of taking care of yourself. Have you called your husband, or even sent him a card? Do you love this man at all? You don't work and you have no children. Instead of wasting money on counseling, use that money to go spend some time with your husband.
2007-01-11 00:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My loneliest time is now too. My boyfriend is and has been in jail for the past six months. It's hard without hearing his voice everyday, and his daughter misses him so much. My heart is with him and not with me so I feel empty without him. My friends try and help but my family disaproved of him in the first place. Theres only so much people can do to help you when you miss someone this much. I know you know how I feel because I don't have kids his daughter isnt mine, i dont have a job, im in anger management and your right it is lonely when you have no one to take care of. Just know that you are not alone!
2007-01-11 00:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kat A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I'm in the same situation, but let me tell u my story. I was in a very good job with a dream salary and then i thought a family is better than a job since my husband is working in Asia. I left everything and moved with him after all the lovely promise that everything is going to be perfect. First Shock was im not allowed a job here cause im an expat and im here cause of my husband, so go out and explore the city,but you have to have to be careful of thief's and snatchers, well don't open the door or windows anybody might come in and kill you and steal you. well what to do Join the desperate house club and become one of them. fine but they all come with babies and 99% of them are Asians which is another culture. what to do ? wait to my lovely husband to take care of me and have fun with but then he works from 8 to 8 and after dinner at home studies for his work. so im alone. when he has nothing to do he's sitting on the internet checking his emails. I dont have a dog to take care of. he's out of town for the next three weeks and im here alone, totally alone wanted to go to see my family but he said the ticket is very expensive ... so u r not alone and your case isn't the worst.
2007-01-11 01:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by BouBou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that a have a problem other than being lonely. I am glad to hear that you are in counseling. Is it possible for you to stay with your husband till he completes his work, school? If it is I would find a house sitter and head west and find a P/T job that doesnt require you to stand on your feet all day. What the hell, we only live once. Do what you have to do, but do it right away!
2007-01-11 00:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My loneliest time was in October 2005. My wife of 11 years left me for another man. It took me almost an entire year for me to get over her and stop feeling lonely. I went to therapy, spent a lot of time with good friends, and traveled some.
Today, I feel better than ever, but I wouldn't trade my experience in for the world because it has taught me so much. Mainly, how to love myself.
2007-01-11 02:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by powrbruh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand I have three kids and feel the same way....Do you have any friends you could visit or call....Maybe you can get involved in a hobby or something or join a local church. Since you don't have any kids or a job could you take a weekend and visit your hubby where he is? I My husband is a work a holic so sometime I just take the kids and go sit in his office and watch him work....ha ha....pretty boring but at least I get to be with him.
2007-01-11 00:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie48 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably the best time to:
1. take up a hobby.
2. learn a new skill
3. learn a foreign language
4. Introspect and plan for improving quality of life.
5. start reading...good books.
6. stop worrying.
7. stop getting bored...
8. make new friends..
i could think of only these few...
2007-01-11 00:33:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 03:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋