i gave it my best shot.... tried to work out......... tried to be understanding..... tried to be everything he wanted..... but he broke with me for like five times...... right now..... i just feel sooo bad about myself......... i feel so unworthy of anything...... i feel ugly...... and i feel bad...... even if people would say it's not my fault......... but the thought is i was dumped....... so there's got to be something wrong with me......... and even if i begin to feel better......... i will always be the girl who was dumped many times............ i know you dont know me....... but please pray for me...........
thank you............
2007-01-10 23:12:21 · 18 answers · asked by terra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Terra, you're NOT ugly, and you're NOT unworthy. I know you feel like that now, and it would be hard to convince you otherwise, but God does not make "ugly" people. I think you're going to grow from this experience, and come out of it feeling beautiful, and loved. Growth comes "in the valley", not on the mountaintop when life is all "roses", and going your way! When you're "at the bottom", every step you take , is UP. Better things lie in your future, trust me. I just said a prayer for you.....things are going to get better, REAL SOON! Have a good day, and be ready for God's blessings!
2007-01-10 23:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with you is that you stayed in a bad relationship too long. After this man broke up with you once, that was a wake up call. And after he did it again, you should have gotten out. The fact that you stayed too long is your fault, not his. Most adults have been "dumped" at least once in their lifetime. It's not the end of the world and it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It means you got dumped--that's it.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and face the reality of the part you played. Next time, get out of a bad situation when the time is right. Learn from this experience and move on.
2007-01-10 23:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Faith without works is dead sweetie. Admit the fact that right now you want to feel sorry for yourself because obviously if he once wanted you then you weren't ugly. Odds are you still look the same so what's the difference. People get dumped all day long...it's normal and it may happen again. Then again you are destined to dump someone yourself...it's a right. You are hurting because he rejected you and that is normal, but you would not be one to believe in prayer if you don't recognize his free will to not want to be with you anymore. God gave you a free will now you have to use it to weep for the "night" but expect "JOY" in the morning! Night tends to mean for a season of pain. But remember a season has it's alloted time. Recongize and accept that you have been rejected and you are not going to accept your EGO being so big that it couldn't happen to you. I am so glad that you asked for prayer because I pray that you not chose the path of vanity but rather the path of sanity and accept that there was a possibility that man's love would not last forever but God's is eternal. I mourn with you because rejection hurts but I encourage you to consider that this may be God's will for your life to give you what you NEED rather than what you WANT and at the same time encourage you to NOT continue to deal with your sitiuation denying that God has equiped you perfectly and made you able to handle all your life's disappointments in Jesus' name...amen. Remember many are the plans of man but it is God's purpose that prevails. Prov. 19:21 and To every thing there is a season. Eccl. 3
2007-01-10 23:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have to be willing to accept the truth before u can begin to heal, and the truth is, there is not a thing the matter with u, your ego is just bruised. u are not a victim unless u choose to be. u are not ugly, don't let someone elses opinion affect how u feel about u. it is his loss u gave him your love and affection, u just gave it to the wrong man. u are giving him more power than he should have, face the facts here, face the truth, u have turned it all inward and instead of getting angry at the right person, u have turned it against yourself. in order to begin to heal u must face reality here. when we loose someone we love, it does affect our self esteem, and how we feel about ourselves, we do question the why? was it us or him? he is the one who made the choice, not u. u have no control over someone elses actions, as we are not god, we have no control. it is easy to blame outselves when things happen, but in reality no matter how good u were, or how beautiful , the same outcome would have happened, as this is him, part of his character, the blame lies with him, my dear. been there done that, hurt myself for a long time, thinking i caused it, but really it was him, and his selfish uncaring ways. u just failed to see it in him, because u loved him it is hard to admit he caused it all. have some self respect, distance yourself from this jerk, the reason u are dumped over and over again is that u are with the wrong men, maybe u are seeking these emotionally unavailable men in life, because it reminds u of what was in your childhood, and it felt confortable. yes i will pray for u, it does take awhile to get past it, hurts alot, but u will get past it, as soon as u stop taking the blame, and stop hating yourself because of this. u had no control over this, unless u are god.
2007-01-11 00:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, ive been dumped a few times in my life and believe me its not the end of the world.if you look at the cituation in a positive way things could be alot brighter. what if this is God's way of letting you know this isnt the right person for you. maybe he has plans for you down the road that dont even include this fellow? God dont make junk and remember your one of His own.have a positive attitude and know somethings good is gonna become of this.God gave you life and how you live it is totally up to you. make the best of it honey and be good to yourself.make you #1.
2007-01-14 20:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 06:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you feel about yourself is that how people look at you. Be brave and tell yourself that you're beautiful. smart and pretty. You should be smarter than letting him using you weakness to abuse your relationship with him.
What you should do now is, tell him it's okay if he does not want to be with you anymore. There are many others out there willing to be with you. Just think positive and take thing easy. I hope that you will achieve your bright future!
2007-01-10 23:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Carol T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're in my thoughts hun and as muchas you don't want to here that it isn't you it might not be you sometimes people just don't belong together and for a while its gonna hurt like hell and until then you gotta just breathe in and out and take one day or hour at a time and you will eventually stop hurting also realise that there is someone out there for you , you just gotta be patient and thats hard but keep comfort in your faith and you will get out of this awful feeling
2007-01-10 23:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by Natashya K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in my prayes. God knows what He is doing believe that. One day you will see the light, but know God is guiding and directing you toward it, accept it and move on. It is not your fault or your ex's fault. So have no hard feelings towards him or your self but know that God works in mysterious ways. In time you will be fine.
2007-01-11 00:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by starsmoonis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok. I will! but stop doing a self pity.You've done so much to him it is not your fault.Maybe he is not for you try to love someone else again.They say `If the Problem is a Man, then. . .the solution is also a man.If the person you love doesnt love you back dont be afraid to love someone else again.
2007-01-10 23:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by chicklet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋