Women going after married men...?

Question

Why on God's green earth do women go after married men? My husband and I are separated geographically and I learned of his infadelity across the ocean......these women believe him when he says he's sparated.....What happened to the good ole days when if a couple were sparated they tried to work things out...not jump into the next sack......SHAME on those women who help unfaithful husbands......they are not victims they are accelorators to the dimise of a marriage!

Answer 1

blame the man....he is the one married and he should stop running after single women. they pretend they are single and start flirting with younger girls......if he is that way, he will always find himself another woman.....so blame HIM! and stop protecting him and blaming the women...

there are millions of women on God's green earth and it is up to him to keep himself loyal and faithful. he is the liar who tells them he is single so he fools them too. everyone gets hurt except him. he wants you to be at home waiting for him when he comes back but while he is away, he is having his cake and eat it too.

if a man really loves his wife, is faithful and loyal and is a good man, you can put miss universe infront of him naked and he will turn his back on her.....

but if he is like your husband is, you can put the ugliest girl and he still will fool around. don't always condemn the other women, you have to condemn him too after all he made a pledge to be faithful to you till death do you part. the women never made any pledge to you ......so he is the person who has done wrong to you.....

by, the way, is this the first time or has he done this before... if it is the first time, you can work it out and get your marriage back to par..... if he has done this before, then it means he is just unable to be faithful to you so the decision is up to you.... either you take him for what he is or leave him.

Answer 2

I'm not a female, but I think I know why. Married men are seen as "forbiddin fruit" in a way. woman want them, and "some" will go get them, no matter what. Even if the man is happy married. Your right. These type of evil girls should be damn shameful of themselves. Personally, I think the fault is at half and half though.

1. If the man is unfaithful, woman will get them easily

2. If the man is faithful, woman will still get them, cause they like that kind of scandolous stuff. (yeah, its damn evil)

its a lose-lose situtation for the faithful, innocent wife. and a win-win situtation for evil woman. Sadly. And its up to the husband to draw the line, to stay faithful or not.. Even when seduced or tempted, by that type of people Just my opinion. hope that helps

Answer 3

I feel for you - but seriously! how can you go around blaming women? If your husband honoured HIS vows, this would not be happening! HE is the one that made the vow to you, NOT the other women! As the saying goes... you can take a horse to the water but you cannot make it drink! You got marriage problems, sort it out with your husband - there will always always always be competition, someone better, someone younger, someone more beautiful ... you say "these women" believe him when he tells them he's seperated - what (on God's green earth - as you so nicely put it...) do you expect them to do? do a backround check on the dude before continuing the conversation? so if a man is REALLY seperated and he tells us so, must we women then automatically NOT trust the guy? Not ALL guys are *******... I myself do not persue married/seperated/engaged/divorced men, but I really think you're being unreasonable here. You're lashing out at women, when you should be sorting this out with your 'husband'...

Answer 4

K wait and take a look. He is telling them that you guys are seperated but he could also be telling them that you guys will never be. In this the girl thinks she has a chance. Is he a sweet talker? I know that a man can usually win over a woman with words and he could possibly be lying to them and to you about what he is saying. So if you were not there you can't really say it's the girls fault cause when it does come to infidelity it always seems the be the cheaties fault not the cheater

Answer 5

Time to make the separation legal. If he's telling these women that he's separated, that's as good as divorced so in essence these women aren't going after a married man, a married man is lying about is status to get women in bed. VERY dangerous for you if and when he comes home and sleeps with you. Call him and tell him to make that place his permanent residency and he'll hear from your lawyer.

Don't blame the women in this one, this is ALL your husbands fault.

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I read your blog. I don't see how you can continue a relationship with this man who had personal ads posted 2 weeks after you were married looking for another woman! And your other questions as well. I can't eat, etc. There were signs before you got married, you choose to ignore them. You have a child/ren that you have brought into this relationship. Is this what you want him/them to see? You want them to see their mom accept their stepfather cheating and you blaming the other woman? That won't help them grow up to be men! They will think that cheating is ok, as well. DO what's right for you and yours cuz your husband is only thinking about his d!ck!!!

Answer 6

I'm not going to comment on your issues mainly because I don't know your issues or reasons but here is what I do know from what I've seen on a personal note...Women think that their man should stay monogamous no matter what and this is simply not how it works. if you want a man to be monogamous, you need to make sure his needs are met. I always said in my younger years, don't ever use that thing as a weapon because if you wont...she will. Since then I have learned that not many of us men are monogamous but not because their life goal is to cheat but are forced to get it some where else and I'm not just talking about sex but things as simple as talking and listening. My brother in law has been celibate for three years because my sister started out saying she was going through menopause but in reality she doesn't have the want to please her husband. Do you think she has the right to a faith full husband? Has he waited long enough and lived with his needs ignored for three years? I see him catering to her and her needs 24/7 but it's one sided. Women are always bashing men, controlling them and treating them like shi* and think he should stay faith full. Women will not take blame for whats going on with their relationship. I grant you it's not every woman and yes, some men cheat just to cheat or build they're ego's and it's wrong, all wrong but the truth of the matter is...some times it is justified. I think three years of being celebit while being a great husband and father so my sister can devote her time to her friends is long enough and if he should wonder off, he has the right. The reason I'm so in tuned with this is because I have sat back and watched my sister do this to this man and if he goes out and cheats...he's the a**hole right? Dimise of a marriage? how about shame on the women who push their (want to be monogamous) men to those extreams. Oh, he's not the only victum that has had to endure this abuse, I was there myself.

Answer 7

Not only women go after married men but also vice versa. So? What are you going to do about it? Blaming other people for the failure of your marriage is not the solution. Either work it our with your husband or move on. Competition is and always will be there.

Answer 8

I do hear what you're saying, BUT, What exactly is the husband telling the other woman? He may very well be telling her that he is NOT married or he is divorced. Or that his wife was/is cheating on him and he he is never going back to her. And please don't misunderstand what I am saying. I am NOT defending him in anyway. I am only saying there are many things he can be telling this other woman. Sorry, and I wish you luck. I am sure you can replace him with a far better man.

Answer 9

While I don't think these women are any kind of saints and do share a certain amount of responsibility, I do believe you are directing your anger to the wrong party. It was your husband who committed and promised to be faithful to you. It was his obligation to remain strong and avoid temptation. Remember, your husband could not have been seduced by another woman unless he allowed the opportunity for it to happen. He too, is neither a victim either of a womans seduction.

Answer 10

i can read between the lines, you're upset. you can't blame the insignificant other for that. it's basically all your husband's fault why he cheated on you in the first place. women are being promised with beautiful lies and eventually find out the guy's tied up and there's no turning back because they had fallen inlove.

what would you do if you were on the other side?!.. you should blame your man!

or i don't know maybe you lack something.. that's why things got worse..

good luck and bless you.