What measures do you take to make time for yourselves?

Question

On answering a recent question of how many times a week I have sex with my husband I said that we try and put some time aside twice a week to get some alone time. This does not generally mean sex but it is guaranteed mom and dad alone time,occasionally leading to sex or saucy foreplay. I credit this decision on both our parts, for the reason we have such a healthy and stimulating relationship with7kids and 15yrs of marriage.
With 7kids finding that kind of time is almost impossible without MAKING the time. Our kids living at home are 14,12,5,3&17months.
Is it bad that we put them aside twice/week to make some time for ourselves. My husband is a stay at home dad so we generally have all the kids in bed w/lights out by 8 o clock at least one night during the week and at the weekend the older 2 are usually with friends so we get the younger three in bed by half 7 which is normal for them anyway.
We both spend a lot of time with our kids in general,is this unfair?

Answer 1

sound like you have a great system
Spending time together - as a couple is great but also spending time with your children
Enjoy both of these times - they are to be cherished

Answer 2

Sounds like you are on the right track. Remember that love is an ACT, it something you DO, not just something you feel. Sounds like you are DOING the love by taking the time to make time.

My husband and I don't have any kids and yet we still have to plan and make time for ourselves, both as a couple and "alone" time with each other. You just have prioritize your marriage and then make it happen.

Answer 3

I'd say you're right on track. I see no problem at all with your approach. You're not asking for too much.

Answer 4

7 kids?

Answer 5

lock the door and shut off the phone and pretend you're not home