help me ! please please....?

Question

i dont know what 2 do !!!! im in the ninth grade and have asked ppl on yahoo answers a million times how to ask out a guy !!! but i still havnt done it ! im not that bad looking (or atleast i hope so !) and have a lot of guys after me , one of them have been after me for five years yet the ones who i dont like always end up after me but the ones who i do..................boohoo !!! am i setting my standards to high ?? i dont want 2 go out with just anyone the guy who i like does not look good at all but hes got the best nature ever i havnt met any one sweeter then him !! yet i know i cannot gather the guts to ask him out because i dont want to lose him as a freind ! the fear of him saying no is just to great ! its always been the same story ~~ i like a guy , i tell no one not even my best freind about him , i become good freinds with him (am good at that) and then it stays like that , i can never take it any further !
i dont know what to do !!!

there have been times when i have become really really good freinds with the guy and the sad part is he came to ask me for help and to introduce him to one of my freinds !! it broke my heart she said no but it still did !!

im in the ninth grade ! i know people are going to tell me to concentrate on my studies but im already good at them , better then average !! and i cant help falling for the guy !! is it wrong am i too young ??

Answer 1

This will not be the last time you do this in your life.

Best thing to do is this:

Decide how much of a good friend is and how much you could handle him being with someone else.

If you can't handle this at all then just go right up to his face look him in the eyes and ask him for gawdsake!!!
Lets look at the possibles:

a) He says no and you lose a friend 20%
b) He says no but you retain a friend 20%
c) He says yes and it doesn't work out but gain a friend 20%
d) He says yes and it doesn't work out and you lose a friend 20%
e) He says yes and it all works out! 20%

Pretty good odds and of course you don't really know how much he likes you which should be pretty high because he's been friends before so... Just go for it!

You're edit: If it was me in your situation I would concentrate on having fun doing things together than having the label of "his girlfriend". The longer you just leave it unsaid the better what you will find is that over time you will probably naturally become close to him and know him a lot better, he will do the same too. You will then give yourself chance to decide whether he really is "the one" or just an infactuation.

If you want me to be honest, yes I think you're probably too young to get so serious life is supposed to be fun! It's not the end of the world he's just a guy, you obviously think he is worth this much effort so you must be either really obsessed with him or just in love (depending on how long and how much time you've spent together).

Take it slow don't be so pressuring it just comes across as controlling or obsessive!

Answer 2

BooHoo! You should not be so hurt over boys, don't get me wrong, I am also in the ninth grade and know your feelings, keep him as a friend (he'll be no good otherwise). You need a serious chill pill, and a shocking dose of reality, get over yourself and grow up. Sorry if that hurt, but just wait and be patient, most girls obsessed with guys are really annoying. And you are not setting your standards too high, never lower your standards (as your parents will probly tell you) There is no one good enough for you, and if there is, well then it must be the hand of God. Don't waste these precious years of your youth on a wild goosechase.

Answer 3

I would say that since you are friends with this guy, the next time you hook up with him tell him you have a slight small problem and that you need his help. You already know he is going to offer you help. Then like just talk with him and say or ask that if he would date you if he had the chance. Or you could like tell him you know a girl who likes a guy and he hasn't asked her out and she hasn't asked him out. What would he do if he were in this position. Take it from there. I think you should just ask him. Good Luck.

Answer 4

well this happens but it is good to be friends with a guy before anything else...just keep being yourself and the right guy will come along...and maybe if you have a dance or some function at school that you need or want a date then just ask that friend to take you..do not be in such a big hurry either...just be yourself and try to enjoy your young life....and things will work out for you

Answer 5

It's not wrong to be attracted to somebody so don't beat yourself up about it. Infatuation is an all consuming emotion that makes all else hard to concentrate on. You need to somehow communicate your feelings to this guy if you ever want to resolve this situation. If he was going to make the first move it would have happened by now. Be brave.

Answer 6

haha..you don't have to ask him out for a date. but, a dinner or movie. it's kinda obvious a hint that you don't mind spending time with him. ask him in a tone like when you talk to him as a friend. i doubt he will turn down a friend's offer. maybe spending more time together can let him know more about you.

and also, why don't you tell your best friend. best friend will usually help try to matchmake. she can also help you drop a hint to him instead of you doing it yourself. (:

best of luck to you.

Answer 7

99% of the time, it works for the female to be the asker-outer.Ask him if he wants to go see a movie with you sometime, or hang out on friday with some of your friends.Make it casual and not so tense.Give him your number and tell him if he wants to hang out to call you.It is much easier to start off that way...good luck.don't be scared!!

Answer 8

ask him to the movies or something just the two of you on a night out and see what happens

Answer 9

ask one of your friends to tell him or send him a letter.

Answer 10

not every oneis perfect...jus go upto him and say it..be bold and confident...