I'm noticing as I get older I'm loosing touch more and more with my friends. It seems like they are getting harder and harder to keep in contact with! Has anyone else experienced this? Why do you think it happens?
2007-01-10 21:45:07 · 29 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My theory is that you get three kinds of friendships / relationships:
1. friendship that happens for a reason, 2. one that happens for a season, or 3. one that happens for a lifetime.
If its either 1 or 2, then its normal to lose touch, our life seasons change, we go into different seasons and its harder to stay in touch with friends from another time in our lives. I've found that we should accept that some friendships were just for a specific reason, or season, then we should let them go and if you cross paths again, its great! but there's no expectation or disappointment if you dont.
and some are for a lifetime! cherish those ones.
2007-01-10 21:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it has been happening in my life for a while now. People become busy with their careers, their love life and spend more time doing these things. Its like a friend of mine met a guy had their honeymoon period where they were all loved up, then they moved in together had kids and her life is so different from mine right now. I tried for a long while to stay in touch with her but I kept getting nowhere I hear from her every now and again but not alot, and I know it could be because she has kids but my oldest friend has the same life and I see her so much more nowadays. I think if your friends stick around and you do stay in touch then thats great you know you have a friend for life but if not let it go and get out and make some new friends. x
2007-01-11 06:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lives and people change and move on, I have 2 good friends that I was at school with and although I may not speak to them on a regular basis I always know they are there. Make a point of getting together even if its once a year.
You will find that through each stage of your life you will make new friends and each will serve a different purpose.
Just make sure you do your part to keep in touch where you can, emails and text are brilliant inventions!
2007-01-11 05:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Denise H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have experienced losing touch with friends. It happens as we grow up, friends move away, get jobs, get married.
It happens because life happens. It's great to make new friends. It's fun to run into an old friend occasionally and catch up.
It is wonderful though to be able to re-establish contact with some special friends after sometimes many years.
Don't worry about losing touch - get out the old address book, look up your friends, give them a call, and let them know you care.
2007-01-11 06:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by birdwatcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, i think its principles.I lost touch with a lot of friends because i had a child young so i couldnt go out with my friends and after time,some of them stoped bothering so in a way i dont blame them but in return i stoped bothering with them so it was stubberness on my part but selfishness also plays a part.people grow up and grow apart,start ther own familys,move away for uni,all sorts of reasons but it will truly show you who is a true good friend,im 21 with a 3 year old daughter but ther are alot of friends that have stuck around even though alot of them moved away,its proved who is ther for me,time will tell i suppose but the friends that cant be botherd arnt really freinds are they.Youll also meet lots of new freinds as you get older and get different jobs or something so dont let it get you down when you think about those good old days!
2007-01-11 06:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Rissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is only my theory so forget it if it sounds crap but...
as you get older other things such as bills, kids, the house, work and even your holidays take up more room in the left hand nobial of the brain. this part of the brain stores information you use on a day to day basis. old information which isnt called upon as much is kept on the opposite half thats why in pub quizes or on a tv quiz you know you know the answer but cant get it to your tounge. its the same with old freinds,,if its been such a long time since you last kept in touch they end up falling into that part of the brain. i'll give you the perfect example by not speel checking this reply....../
2007-01-11 05:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by "THE WISE ONE" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all keep moving on in life but I have found that going onto the internet sites looking for friends of old has brought some back into my life - including someone I was at school with. If you want to really find someone then join one of the sites and see if you have any luck. If they do not appear it could be that someone who knows them can give you some info.
2007-01-11 05:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by SYJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As people and there life and views on life change they decide someone they thought was a friend is someone they don't now look upon as a friend so they don't need or want as much or in fact any contact with... in short people change and sometimes that means they change the people there with.
2007-01-11 06:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by I.P. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both parties have to make an effort to keep in touch and as you get older your priorities change in life and with age comes more responsibility making it difficult to take time out to keep in touch. everyone grows up, changes and moves on. i find the best way for me to keep in touch with people is via email because that way they can read it at their own time and reply when they get a chance whereas if you call them they may have other things to be getting on with.
2007-01-11 05:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by missree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's stopped happening now but I used to think that their lives had become so busy they didn't have the time to maintain the friendship. The friends I'm left with have been with me over 30 years now.
2007-01-11 09:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋