Thanks for all ur resposes...U all have given me more confidence.. Now probably with ur help,I could have more friends..People tell me that i look very beautiful(like an actress) but I have no confidence in myself..haha..I am asking u all one last time,here is my question:I am in Grade 9 and I am really very shy...I dont know what to do..I am in a real soup..I am left out in class..Why am I left out???I am more better off than all of those girls..I dont know why are they doing this to me..Those "popular girls" think that they are great..They act like freaks in school..They do not have anything which is sooo nice in them..I dont know why am i left out..Why do I have to sit with geeks in class??Why me???I was crying for 3 whole hours today...What should I do?Can someone please help me out???Please..Ur answers will be greatly appreciated..Thank you..:))..take care..Thank you all for ur kind responses..
2007-01-10 20:45:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can remember having similar problems all the way through high school; and it was all due to my own shyness and insecurities. And I'll tell you a secret. Do what you can to push past the shyness and allow yourself to socialize with them (and other kids in school)
I did this by joining powder puff football team (all girls). Only the popular girls---also considered the high rollers---did stuff like that. I couldn't convince my other friends to join with me. So I did so on my own and I made the decision that I WAS going to do this and I was going to have fun at it! EVen if it killed me!
Well, I did and I earned a lot respect from them and for myself! Also, I did make new friends. I ended up with 2 sets of friends and I was satisfied with that. And myself.... For finding a way to push past that terrifble feeling of shyness....and the fear. ...
My advice to you is to engage them in an interesting conversation....possibly by asking them a question or something like that. Laughter is always good. Learn some new jokes and make 'em bust a gut laughing! lol... Do you see what I mean? Let them see that Yes you're a little shy, but not all of the time! That you really aren't a geek and can be fun to hang with.
BTW, I was in the 12th grade when that event happened in my life. I WISH it happened when I was in the 9th grade. My high school years would've been a lot more fun than they were!
Remember this: YOU ARE JUST AS GOOD AS THEY ARE!! And don't you ever let them or anyone else let you think otherwise!! If you do that, you'll be okay!
Peace and good luck to ya!
2007-01-10 21:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the wanna be's who will never succeed in anything but getting laid.
I was a bit shy in school, and didn't have many friends, but thats how I liked it, just a group of about seven, and we all were different. I didn't really connect with any of them because I didn't go out every weekend to the popular hang out, and I definitely didn't spend the night at someones house.
One day I started JROTC and met some people like me, mostly guys of course. I have had those friends since then. I excelled in my class and and met older people in high school and had a blast. So, try joining some kind of extra curicular activity at school.Be patient the fun will come to you.
I unfortunatly had an expirence in being "the most popular girl in school" one year and hated it. I moved to a knew town and had a cousin who was a cheerleader and everyone thought I was so cool because I wasn't from their and the only redhead there as well. I had a senior boyfriend, just turned 16, and then they wanted me to go out drinking with them. Not that I minded the drinking at that time but things got out of hand and went down hill.
Everybody was talking about it and I said something out right rude about it and then I was the "enemy". Needless to say I finally reconnected with the friends I belonged with and had a good time. I moved back before the was up, but when I left I was considered a stuck up Bitty. Not that I cared at all.
I get along better with guys than I do girl's, so just relax and like I said before ignore the wanna be's, and wait for it. Sometimes you do have to contribute a little in order to make friends.
2007-01-10 21:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget those 'popular girls'. They're just a bunch of bitches. Why would u want to hang out with people like them?
Aren't there any other kind of people in ur class then the geeks and the popular girls? If there are then make friends with them. Don't be shy.
2007-01-10 20:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , i once have the same kind of feeling too but i am on the popular and going popular stage.some kind in the middle . i am not from america school or something so things might be different,so watever still givve you my advice: my friends once told me that popular people are popular for being hated.that is quite true . if you were stuck with the geeks why not make them beautiful and cool[if some are able to svae] in this way you are the saver! the leader. the populars are popular only when people think they are. make them chage their views,let them think you are cool.most of all yes confidence. it comes from within.when you are walking be proud or may be listen to some music that help and walk to the rythm of the beat, in that way people would take notice and look at you.and dressing is importent never copy others,they would think you are a poser ,dress your own way even when it is weird.if not, be cunning oti destroy them.lol.insult people with a smile. good luck
2007-01-10 20:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by aleera e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can be something in the middle! those popular girls are popular only NOW, but you will see what will happen only in 3 years! they won't be so beautiful!even geeks will be better than them! i think there's someone who's not popular and not geek. make new friends!
2007-01-10 21:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Am UNIQUE!
thats the thought thats going to give you a boost.Have it in ur mind all the time and Dont mind any other gals. They are all having this feeling and they succeeded in thier try. So u cant blame them hence boost urself and boost the world...
U ll Rock
Njoy
ALMIGHTY
2007-01-10 21:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by ALMIGHTY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋