i was with my gf 2 1/2 yrs. i moved down to so cal. she was supposed to follow, but instead starts to wander.. she sleeps with a 16 yr old kid (she is 19) and i didn't know she cheated yet.. she came down south to visit me finally after putting me through alot of ****. we had sex the first night (6 days after she first had sex with him and about 2 days since her last time having sex with him) we never used protection i always pulled out, that night she wanted me to *** in her and she would "stay with me forever" i still pulled out, but she thrust me back in immediatly with her legs.. she was with me 2 weeks then went back up, had sex with him more and then came down and found out she was pregnant, and then i found out she had been cheating on me all along. she said she used protection, he confirmed this. 1 should i stay with her now that she wants me back (this was her 2nd guy she cheated with) 2 the doc. measured featus, he put the date as first night she was with him. is it mine?
2007-01-10 19:41:56 · 29 answers · asked by blah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is really early to tell. The best way to know is until the child is born then you can do some DNA testing.
Then again, maybe you can go to Maury?
2007-01-10 19:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well after the baby is born, you should definitely check to see if it's yours, I think right now you should go and find yourself, just have sometime for yourself, if it turns out that the baby isn't yours, then you and you only know that your not obligated to stay with her and help raised her child, if you want to then that's you, but you don't have to help her raise a child that you didn't help bring into this world. Another thing is that you can't predict if this child is yours or not, being that she slept around while still sleeping with you, "that's gross" but anyways, just because you pull out doesn't mean that she wont get pregnant either, but if she didn't use protection with the other dudes, then you should go get tested too, I don't have to tell you this, but I think you deserve just a little but or more then anything someone better. Hope that this helps.
xoxo
2007-01-10 19:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by natali3x3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a case of "Who is more likely to pay child support and take care of me and my baby...."
A sixteen year old that probably doesnt work or YOU.
Sadly, no doctor can put the time of conception so close he can rule out either you or the other guy, not if it's only 6 days apart.
If she cheats, she will probably continue to do so. Do not take her back. Wait until the baby is born and then have a DNA test, then you can do the right thing if you want.
And learn to use better birth control.
2007-01-10 19:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by mslider2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you have to decide first off whether you really want to be with her and can you trust this other guys word because hey, he is 16, does he really wanting to be paying support for any baby? He could be saying they used protection just to get his own @ss off the line. You can't trust that baby is yours until a dna test is done. I'd say all you can do for now is help her out with doctors appointments and that if your so-minded (if not, don't blame you) and then get the test done at the end to resolve any doubts you have one way of the other. You do not want to be with a girl that would cheat on your and make you pay for another boy's (yes boy considering he is 16) child.
2007-01-11 13:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by OziGirl_222 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw, c'mon. There's such a thing as a paternity test these days. And before you come to that, why not ask her to put in writing a precise account of her sex wanderings, while it's still fresh? She owes you that if she's to put paternity on your shoulders, right? Keep a copy of that. Chances are she'll make the revealing mistake in writing that down, even if she tries to cheat once again. Good liars are people with an excellent memory. Others, ie cheaters or poachers are poor liars in general and they're likely to set the trap that will kill them.
2007-01-10 19:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know for sure is when the baby gets here, im not sayin shes a bad person she just has some issues she needs to work out emotionally, something is causing her to act out, did u ever cheat on her or did she suspect it, but what really bothers me is why in the world is she having sex with teenagers thats kinda gross it makes me wonder and u should 2 u dont need someone like that in your life women would kill to have a good guy like you
2007-01-10 19:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by tuttifruity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aite showty im 21 n till now have had only 2 serious relation ships n got a 4 yr old son n a 2 yr old daughter out of them . mind u im still wit ma daughters dad . my advise 2 u is this look deep down inside and ask urself these 3 questions .1 do you love her . 2 can you live ur life asking ur self wut if .... and 3 r u ready 2 take that step and be a father ? in my eyes a father isnt who made the baby but more like whos there for it . now all u gotta do is reminise on the good n c wut the future holds if u can forgive her ..... now dont get it twisted let ha know dat dis cheatin **** gotta stop ... cuz not only is it bad 4 the relationship but she gotts sum1 who is gonna be lookin up 2 her now . good luck . n congrats cuz i hope regardless u will be der 4 da jit cus u seem 2 care or u wouldnt of asked .
2007-01-10 20:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by bandolera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always wait until after the baby is born and have a dna test done to determine if the baby is yours or not. They say once a cheater, always a cheater. If she has already been with two other guys and you still want her, you must really love her to accept that. Good luck with you. You have a good heart and deserve better than that.
2007-01-10 19:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by airtightreality 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This very same thing happened to my son.
Only his Ex has a daughter with another guy, now a son with my Son.
The only way to tell if the baby is yours is a Paternity test.
My son has physical custody of his child and going thru a custody process for Primary.
My son tried to make things work out with this girl, but once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-01-10 19:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD LEAVE HER, when the baby is born ask for a free DNA test to see if you are the dad, sounds like she is trying to get a baby daddy and cant choose who,stay away it will only end in heartbreak and misery later on, messing with her you might miss a good one, and being from so cal myself, i can tell you THERE ARE ALOT OF GOOD GIRLS HERE, so forget her, 2 years is nothing compared to a lifetime of happiness
2007-01-10 19:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by jokerswild 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go take a DNA test and find out. You should always use protection. Why didn't you? I would seriously consider finding someone else. Even if you're the father, you can still have a relationship with the baby. But as for your relationship with the girl, end it.
2007-01-10 19:49:12 · answer #11 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋