She's pretty,but she is very bad at her study;she's poor,but she uses her bf's money to show off;she's slutty,but she pretend to be traditional;she's mean,but she has been alwasy gentle in front of boys.I don't want to know this kind of person,but unfortunately,she's my roommate.We all hate her,but we have to bear with her.Maybe we should try to be more lenient?
2007-01-10 19:40:45 · 16 answers · asked by ♡Ling♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She sounds like she is trying to appear to everybody as what they want to see. To boys - gentle, to traditionalist - traditional, to friends - wealthy. She wants to be liked by everybody but cannot wear all of these faces at the same time when she is sharing a room with you.
My guess is that she has an problem with insecurity and uses the chameleon routine to gain acceptance. Maybe as her room mate you should try to help her resolve these issues rather than simply hating her.
2007-01-10 19:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by John B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should try to be more lenient and grow up a little. There are plenty of different people in this world and who are you to judge her on her state of poverty, her promiscuity and her application towards her studies?
Do I assume from your extreme prejudice against this person that you are jealous or just perfect and looking to improve this person?
Seriously, the problems that the girl you're describing are typical issues faced by any priviledged teenager and she'll grow out of them. It's much harder to lose the habit of discrimination and I imagine you'll remain that way for a lot longer than she remains "bad at her study". There's more to life than studying and she's unlikely to ever apply what she's studying right now to her professional life so it won't do her any harm. Being surrounded by judgemental and condescending brats will do her more harm so lighten up and accept her for who she is.
2007-01-10 19:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Diarmid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I really don't think that you and your roommates should be worried about what goes on about her personal life, as long as she pays rent with either her money or someone else's money then everything is good, but I can understand the type of person she is and why your caring about it. You should worry about one person and one person only, You. If she doesn't pay any mind or attention to you or the rest, then let it be. Maybe she has no one else to turn to, always try to put yourself in someone else's shoes, well I know you might hate my answer to this but always try to see beyond the picture, why is she acting the way she is, maybe talking to her about it might do something, but then again, she might think that your all being nosy.
Good Luck!
2007-01-10 20:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by natali3x3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many times there is an underlying reason why she is acting like that. She may be feeling inferior to you, she may feel the need to be loved, she may even feel like she has to boast. Most of those means she has low self-esteem. She probably feels that you dislike her so why try to be nice around you, so she goes to the guys. Been there and done that. It is no fun to be in either position.
2007-01-10 19:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to not allow her to waste your time. Think about letting anger and hate not be apart of your curriculum. Focus on fun times and your future careers once you get out of school because there will always be people like her and if people like you wast your time discussing her, you will have allow her to steal precious time from your lives. Then try to get a new roommate as soon as you can. Good Luck!
2007-01-10 19:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is a girl in my school who is like the girl that you have mentioned above, but the only difference is that she is moderate in her studies. don't try to be more lenient towards her coz she will show off more . you should just ignore her
2007-01-10 19:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your roommate wants to be liked and accepted, just like everyone else, only she doesn't quite know how. Try to be her friend. You might discover that she is not as bad as you think.
2007-01-10 19:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wishing to sound misanthropic, but, why is it that the words "raptorial social parasite" immediately spring to mind whenever I hear stories like this?
2007-01-10 20:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have a conversation with her. Open up about things that are concerning you. It would be showing friendship love, and respect. Show you really care!!!
2007-01-10 20:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her...as long as she got nothing to do with ur life, why bother how she is like? I mean, she is just ur roommate.
2007-01-10 19:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋