I just got divorce how do I cope and move on ?

Answer 1

Everyone copes in different ways.. for me it took me almost 9 years to totally get over my x husband walking out on me and our two kids, i dated and went on, but i couldnt let anyone in totally to my heart for fear id get hurt like that again.. eventually i had to realize that the person i loved, was the person i married a man that would of died rather then hurt me.. but he was no longer that man, he had turned into someone else, i finally had to realize that i was more like a widow and mourning for a man that no longer exsisted ...and never will again, cause even if he had come back, there was to much pain, to much distrust, to much water under the bridge so to speak it would of never worked out anyways.. so i had to learn to move on and come to terms with he was gone completely...

Answer 2

Hi Josh,

Coping is like a death, you have to go through the normal grieving process. Moving on is not an option until you examine your heart and learn from this and say that you will not commit yourself to another relationship until you fix the flaws that ended this one.

If there was kids involved its not all about you, they are suffering and probably confused. Love them as before if this is the case and don't pine each other against each other.

Forgiveness is the key, strengthen your faith if you believe that way. Don't hang around negative people and keep yourself busy until you can think clearly again.

Answer 3

Getting over a divorce isn't easy. Some of the pain stays around forever. First you need to take time that you need to grieve. Then you need to fill your life with new and interesting experiences.
Dating and getting back out there is a good thing to do.
Dating doesn't have to be fancy. A dinner and a movie or lunch or a walk. Also remember that you might have to kiss a million frogs before you meet your prince or princess

Answer 4

Divorce is never easy. I hope atleast you were able to part ways in an adult fashion without too much nastiness. In any case, it takes time.....you will probably deal with feelings of failure, hurt, maybe embarassment, making new or changing friends, etc. Start looking at things from "your" point of view. You are single now, and therefore, you can make your own decisions without having to think of a spouse, that can be a good thing. Get involved in hobbies or sports you love. Surround yourself with friends who support you, keep your family close. Once you give it time, you'll find that you'll be stronger, be able look back and learn from mistakes that were made (on either of your parts), and hopefully, one day, be lucky enough to find someone again who you can share your life with........and that does not mean you have to marry them! Good luck to you, be strong-

Answer 5

This must be one of the hardest times in your life. You need sometime alone. Go up to the mountains or walk along the beach...look back at what went wrong and take your part of the responsibility for it. If you need to cry ...do it while your alone...
because you are vulnerable. It is so hard to get through. I can sympathize with you.

Answer 6

Find some stuff to do, get urself busy, hang out with friends, and try to let go and move on...all the best!

Answer 7

Best thing to do is to keep busy.
Get active with friends and family.

Answer 8

Make sure you keep your friends close and take your time. Your heart will need to time to heal.

Answer 9

Best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love.

Answer 10

Find a hobby and keep busy. If you find any other ideas let me know.