I am by nature monogamous, introverted and a home person whereas my wife is more outgoing and likes to be meeting people and forming new friendships. How much freedom is considered normal.
2007-01-10 19:33:51 · 15 answers · asked by John B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that is tough.. I also am an introvert and feel threatened if my partner is extremely out there socially... i feel left behind and, well threatened. But i will say, you can't give someone freedom. If you take it away, they will take it from you... you need to let her be herself and come to you when she is ready. And so you don't resent her.. you need to have a life too... get hobbies and at times if you are to busy to be with her, that is ok too...
2007-01-10 19:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you both share a mature mutual trust, I don't see a problem. What is the m/f balance of her "new friendships?"
Is it at all possible that you could become less introverted and go with her, so that she could satisfy her "need" for "new friendships" on a couples basis?
That way, it would be a compromise/growth situation for YOU, and you wouldn't have to harbor feelings of doubt/suspicion regarding what your wife is doing.
One key question might be this: does your wife PREFER that she enjoy being "outgoing" by herself (meaning without you), or has she encouraged you to go along with her?
2007-01-11 08:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is considered normal when both partners are mostly comfortable with the actions of each other. When you married each other, you were aware of one another's personality - so now you both need to adjust a bit. Just figure out how much time you both like spending together, and how much can safely be set aside as "personal time" - for you to do things at home that you enjoy, and for her to go out and socialize. I think, just by virtue of being together, your worlds might start to intersect a bit - you will be attending more social functions, and she will be staying at home more. The routine should settle in, and, ideally, it should feel just about right to both.
2007-01-11 03:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the freedom that is considered normal is waht you and your wife come to discuess and agree apon. There is no set answer as to how much freedom one should grant the other in a relationship, but what you to feel comfortable to give to each other. I personaly feel that if you are uncomfortable with the way your wife acts is to talk to her, talking and understanding one anothers needs is the best way to end many if not all conflicts in a relationship
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-11 03:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by laxgod55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not a "normal amount of freedom" rule when it comes to marriage. The two of you need to sit and discuss this together. It should be as much freedom as she wants AND that you are comfortable with. The maturity and selflessness of the two of you will make it work.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 04:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the marriage. There are an infinite amount of possibilities that you two can make. Having more similar lifestyles would help.
Trust her? Tell her you don't like the lying sh-theads that just want to bang her.
2007-01-11 03:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that as long as you are trusting your wife what ever time she has alone is fine. I hope she is still spending enough time with you. My husband and I have very seperate lifes during the week. He does what he wants and vise versa. The weekends however are ours.
2007-01-11 03:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by karena k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is completly normal, but if your not ok w/ the person she is why did u marry her, she is just being herself your the one w/ the problem, if she treatin u bad and disrespectin u then theres a problem if not hey respect her for who she is and let it go
2007-01-11 03:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by tuttifruity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a husband and wife should equally have as much freedom as they need with out breaching their marriage vows, and with out neglecting their spouse..
2007-01-11 05:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must not have any close male friends, she must not love
anyone but you , she may not kiss or have sex with anyone but you.
She cannot go out to clubs or dinner or be entertained by other males...She cannot stay out late without you.....
2007-01-11 03:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋