Only daughter and 3 brothers
(If you try to confront him, he pretends it never happened.)
Will never apologize
Any advice appreciated.
2007-01-10 19:14:27 · 16 answers · asked by heidi D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are old enough where you are not under his direct supervision and do not live with him you can always leave when it gets to that point or not come over often. if you do live with him try to avoid situations with him that may make him volatile ( if there is anything that you know that does). Also, talking to a counselor, your mother, or siblings may help. Ask how your mom or siblings deal with it. If nothing else, avoid him as best you can. Don't allow him the opportunity to abuse you.
Good luck...
2007-01-10 19:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by moosh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes parents will never apolgize for these types of things, no matter how much you try to talk to them or explain that it hurts. It could also be that he treats you differently because your a girl, or because your not doing your best, but from the way describe this, I feel it is done for other reasons. The best thing you can do is try to tell him, and if he makes fun of you or once again pretends it never happened, then you ignore him until you get 18 then move out. One day he will realize how wrong he was, lets hope its not too late when he does.
2007-01-10 19:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How much do you love him?
If you can't stand to be around him, why not just try to avoid him as much as possible?
Do you live in the same house? If not, he should be easy to avoid.
If you love him, and want to be with him, but want him to change, then you have a real problem. People don't change that easily. You usually have to accept someone for who they are, and love them or not.
I don't like the term "verbally abusive." It's six syllables instead of one. It doesn't clarify anything, because the one-syllable 4-letter correct term for this kind of person is just as clear, if not clearer: He's a jerk.
2007-01-10 19:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by x4294967296 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an IKE (I know everything) and a very proud person. Pride goethe before the fall. Sooner or later he's gonna say something that he can't take back. It may change a person's life forever.
What can you do? You can't pick your family? Perhaps ask him to join you and your siblings in therapy. It's obvious he's not very good with people skills. If anything, try to forgive him so you can try to live a happier life with less baggage.
2007-01-10 19:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You live with three bro's and "him" May Jesus help you.
Because they have most likely got to be like him somehow.
Whats your brothers think ? Have you talked to them.Maybe by some chance one of them is not.Are they older ? Yopu never said .So it's impossible to really answer,.Verbal abuse
is as hard if it's enough of it or even more then physical abuse.
Maybe your dad is "nuts" or seniel or something .But you can't see it cause your there evolved with it.I would avoid him at all costs if possible."Wheres? Your MOTHER? You never said?
2007-01-10 19:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by All Peaches an cream 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By the way, if someone makes you feel bad and you talk to them and they continue then it is abuse. Sometimes you can't really get through to parents...but you can help yourself before it really affects your life, if it has not already done so. Take some therapy or counseling sessions. I am and they are helping me cope with my family issues and problems. You don't have to be crazy to go to therapy, it is to help you emotionally. I also agree with the person that wrote "ask him to get help with you". If he doesn't want to, then you can help yourself. Your not alone.
2007-01-10 19:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mexybabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor kid my mother used to do that to me. I just limited all interaction with her and snubbed her relying on many other female sources for guidance and instruction. You should also get a close frein you can talk to about how you feel. it will help you figure out how to cope. Good luck.
2007-01-10 19:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by evilive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ..I would advise a helpline, or calling the police and having you're father arrested, love him or not ..if talking will not work, I would get some kind of authority into the mix, Im sure you don't feel like him abusing anyone?
2007-01-10 19:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If under 18 call social services.
And if over 18 just tell him next time he does it he is out of your life till he gets a grip.
2007-01-10 19:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had that dad......he was fine with me until his 2 sons were born and then i just vanished....well he fathered 6 kids that were not his so i learned to respect his feelings....he is now in the hospital with emphasema.....and he is now getting well.....but all and all he has been a great father to me....mind you he was very verbal and some times physical......but i understand he married my mother knowing that she has 6 kids....and i love him for that...he took on a lot and he is still here with us
2007-01-10 19:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋