2007-01-10 19:08:36 · 11 answers · asked by LadyK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Want some good advice? The first person that must help her is herself. If she doesn't want to or won't leave, there's nothing you can do.
2007-01-10 19:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're family. Surely you can be somewhat direct with your sister.
Rather than come right out and accuse her or something, start indirectly. Ask her how the relationship is going. When she presumably says, "Great!" point out an instance or two of the abuse you have witnessed and say that it concerns you and you are slightly worried about her. Dont lecture her just yet. But make it seem you are there for her to talk to. Keep an eye on her always and if things dont improve quickly then come in and speak your mind directly.
2007-01-11 03:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by sothere! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounding judgemental is far from the important factor in this situation. Your sister can be in very severe danger and she needs to get out. You need to let her know that you are there for her and that she doesn't have to be in that relationship. A lot of people who allow themselves to be in abusive relationships are those with low self esteem who can't see that they deserve and are capable of getting better. The best thing you can do is talk to her openly and let her know that she is beautiful and inform her of her potential. Let her know that there are people out there who will appreciate her and see her in a better light so she doesn't have to settle. She is young and no one should be abusing her at 18 or any other age when there are so many people out there who wouldn't.
2007-01-11 03:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by msmith4950@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what type of abuse you mean. What you may consider abuse may not be to her. However, if you feel that she is in danger you can always bring it up in a round about way. Ask her how things are going with him. Usually things will come out on their own. If there is something specific that you've noticed you can bring it up and say you noticed and wanted to make sure that everything was ok . Or you can simply ask if she wants to talk about it.
2007-01-11 03:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by moosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I wouldn't care If I seemed A little judgmental...I would just ask her what the hell was up with her letting this guy abuse her.
set up an appt for her at the mental health clinic and go with her.
If she refuses to go..tell her you love her and you don't want to be afraid for her its just too much for you and ask her to do it for you.If she can convince the Therapist she is ok you will be relieved and not bother her with it again.
I did this with my sister...once the therapist got ahold of her
things got better, much better...she realized her self worth and got a life of HER own,not his. This is the short version but I think you get it. Good luck don't give up!!
2007-01-11 03:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honeslty you really shouldnt care about it seeming judgemental you should tell her to get out of it. what is really important is your sisters well being thats the only thing that matters. the best thing for her is not to be in an abusive relationship. so you shouldn't worry about it seeming judgemental.
2007-01-11 03:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Overkill310 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better damn well be confronting her there is help, Shelter form the Storm,and many others get her help do anything you can think of 'cause you don't want to have to pick her up at the hospital after she has been beaten so bad she can barely breathe. Help her NOW
2007-01-11 03:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by NRG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in your sisters situation 2 years ago.. My brother got me out of it.. he came to me one night and asked me if i was ok, told me that he knew my b/f was hitting me and that if i didnt get out eventually this guy was really gonna hurt me or even kill me.. He told me he loved me and didnt want anything to happen to me and if i need help to get out that he was there for me. Only ur sister can make the decition to leave this guy.. you just need to make sure she knows ur there if she need help.
2007-01-11 03:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by angeliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for her because you are only going to push her closer to the guy.
2007-01-11 03:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to speek english and butt out... im sure shes smarter than you are.. let her do her own thing she will figure out things
2007-01-11 03:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by jingles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋