I just turned 19, I'm a virgin, I haven't had a girlfriend, I've only kissed a girl but thats only because my friends had to help me cause I was struggling, I haven't partied yet, I haven't gone on trips to Cabo, Lake Havasu, Palm Springs, Santa Barbara, Morongo, all that typical white teen stuff, I've partied before but only ghetto parties & I ******' regret going to them, why are there so many ghetto people in Californina?, for example people that are into the gangster & hip-hop fashion & lifestyle, the first semester of college just passed & I haven't partied yet, how do underage people get access to alcohol so easily?, c'mon, there are so many people partying with alcohol under 21 & under 18, it's so easy, damn, why was I cursed with this life, I don't drink alcohol, I would only drink alcohol socially, not hardcore at a party but I've never done it cause I have boring friends who don't know where & when typical white people parties are at, or parties that are not hip-hop related.
2007-01-10 18:52:21 · 12 answers · asked by introvertedguy06 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I want to say something, and it is not meant to be rude. This is the real world, my friend. The pendulum of life is just on a down swing for you right now. But it must come back up as well, and when it does, it will be a whole new list of worries and problems. Life is hard, but the more you live it the more it will change for the better or the worse... that just depends on how you ride the waves life throws at you. Make sure you stay away from the drinking and the parties, and figure out where there are places you can meet people like you. From your statement about the Ghetto parties, I could tell you didn't like that. You are in the age where taking flight into the world is very difficult, BUT, relax... the wind will soon take your wings and you will be off for better things.
Learn, Love and Live it is what life is all about... but understand, you can't have it ALL at once. They are all things you have to acheive in a lifetime.
And remember, no matter how bad you think it is, there is ALWAYS someone who has it worse than you.
2007-01-10 19:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to party...party. Get out there in the world and find and make a new group of friends and if you want, introduce your friends to the new crowd. Go and party and drink and do all of that. I am currently a college student and I'm 18 but I don't drink or do drugs, I can gain access but I choose not to. I have fun everyday, every weekend and I have more fun sober. Partying hard that way is just headaches, throwing up and all this other stuff. And everyone in Cali isn't ghetto, you just get involved in a ghetto scene. I'm black and I don't even get caught in that so just get out there, do what you want to do with no guilt and just know that its your life. Your first step to a good time is, stop calling yourself a loser, I don't think you are.
2007-01-11 03:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by msmith4950@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-Cut the racist crap. I have been to parties that had nothing but white people and have heard more hip hop at those parties than any party that had multi-races. You don't like rap, fine thats great, Im not a big fan of it myself but maybe you would have a girlfriend if you weren't so busy talking trash about what other people like.
-People have house parties all the time. I go to most of the parties that 3 girls from work throw. Lots of people having fun with a couple kegs and even non alcoholic drinks for those who don't like alcohol. They do however play some hiphop some R&B but mostly alt, and pop. I hear lots of songs that I don't care for at the parties but Im not paying much attention to the music because I'm too busy having fun.
-It's 2007 if you are still so stuck in the past that you just can't bring yourself to lose the racist crap then sorry dude but your not going to get invited to very many parties.
-Stop wishing you where dead. Women want men who believe in themselves. I'm sure you have alot to offfer the world but you are going to have to be a little more acceptting of other people if you want to make friends and very much so if you want a girlfriend.
2007-01-12 03:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by 2Negative 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in a similar situation, and I used to think the exact same thing. But really, try not to be dragged down by those who have "the life" because really i don't think they have a better life than you or I. Yeah, it's cool to have sex at 16, but hey you haven't got a girl pregnant and you don't have AIDS so thats a bonus and some girls want to wait until after marriage to have sex anyway, you'd be surprised how many people are still virgins and just dont admit it.
It is best to party sensibly, who wants to be on a hospital bed having their stomach pumped or throwing up in a taxi?
Maybe you have the life and your blinded by this obsession to be so untamed.
Just be yourself, don't become anxious about how cool or uncool you are, cos everyone's tastes are different, you'll find a girl one day and you'll love her...just enjoy the time in between
2007-01-11 03:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ Rachel ♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you worry yourself with unnecessary things? Looks to me like you're one of the good guys out there. You're a responsible and a family oriented guy. You put your family first against luxury and pleasure. Stay virgin as you are until you find the right one and get married (at least that's what I did, meaning you're not alone). There are so many forces that are pulling you in so many directions but don't give up now. You survive this long so don't start now. Stay the way you are, there's nothing wrong with that.
I commend your mom for bringing you up this way. Don't go about now wishing the wrong things.
2007-01-11 03:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by egan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move to the UK as we have a big problem with underage drinking! :-p
Anyway, once you get to drink alcohol you'll discover it ain't that big a deal.
The virgin thing is also not that big a deal, people think it is. Your 19 and you want the world i guess. Believe me wait for it to happen and you won't regret, rush it and regret it ;-)
2007-01-11 03:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by No 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll be your friend. You don't mean that about being aborted, et al. Don't say things like that. I have no idea why California is the way it is, because I have never been lucky enough to go there. You, my friend, are lucky.
2007-01-11 03:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god all the answers above are so frickin' long. i wish i was aborted so i didn't have to look at them.
and partying is over-rated. just do well in school and when you graduate you will be living the sweet life like me. ;)
2007-01-11 20:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations, you still have hope!
2007-01-11 02:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you kill yourself can I have your dvd player...after your gone???
2007-01-11 02:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by foghat77 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋