I am 12 and I got majorly busted?

Question

I cut school and was three hours late for curfew. My dad and mom gave me a choice.
Grounded for a month which means no tv no friends nothing. I get up in the morning have breakfast go to school and then come home and right to my room come out for dinner then back to my room. I can sit in there and read but no radio no phone nothing.
Or I can get a paddling in the family room and 2 hours in the corner and grounded for the weekend to the house.
Which one should I choose? I have until Saturday morning to decide.

By the way in my family a spanking in tghe family room means the whoole family can watch and the spanking is always bare bottomed. Further more corner time is directly after and the bottom stays bare and the hands best stay at your sides and not be rubbing the butt.

Answer 1

I would go with the paddling. At least then it is over with and only a weekend of grounding.

Answer 2

While cutting class and being late to curfew is untolerable, the choices you have been given for punishment is somewhat worse in one respect: they are making you sweat it out until Saturday morning to be punished for the offense. They should have punished you right then and there--either way. However, as to the choice--a month in solitary (with no public contact other than at school--and I'm surprised they didn't ask the school for an in-school suspension for 30 days, either) or public corporal punishment (since the family can watch) with the humilitation afterwards....not to mention being made to stand bare-bottomed in the corner for whomever to see--and solitary for the weekend?? Truly, both seem to border on abuse. But, you were caught in the act. The spanking may seem quicker--unless they add something afterwards that they didn't mention to you--but, sometimes, you might need the alone time to study and consider the results of your actions. If you are looking to be over quick--the spanking is your choice. If you are looking for less pain--the month grounding would be the best way to go. Good luck, and don't do this again--next time, it could be both!

Answer 3

I don't think it's child abuse, growing up my dad had a paddle too but only used it once the other times it was the hand or belt. And that's just how it was back then. And one time he even made my brothers drop there pants and boxers together so they got wooped together, I don't remember what they did but I know it was extremely bad for my dad to go there.

I don't think it's right in my mind, because I still have that picture in my head I was probably 7 and I remember crying for my brothers because they were crying and they were in there teens. I think it can do damage mentally what there doing, especially if they make someone stand in the corner with their bare bottoms showing to the entire family. What is that?! That's suppost to be humiliation not punishment for what they did!

I would seriously go with the first one, it's going to suck horribly but there are advantages to it. You'll have all the time in the world to do your homework for once since there are no distractions, and it would make you not want to do it again. If you pick the 2nd one it's more of an easy way out; it's just saying I can get spanked and be grounded a weekend and then i'm off. Choose the appropriate punishment.

Answer 4

Sorry but you are too old to be exposing your bare bottom to the rest of your family. Any parent that would want you to let others see your private area at age 12 is not right in the head.

I guarantee you that any school counselor would be obligated to call CPS if they knew that your parents made you expose your rear to your family, get paddled, and then continue to expose your rear to your family afterwards.

That and who would want to watch that? Maybe your parents should think about the other people in the house who will have memories of watching their brother be humilated in this manner.

You deserve to be punished no doubt, but not by paddling in this fashion. Opt for option one and maybe they will get lax after a couple weeks. At least this way you won't be living with the scars of humiliation.

You were wrong but that second punishment is wrong on a whole other level.

Answer 5

I would say just be grounded for a month. There was a big misunderstanding in the house and my parents thought I did something VERY bad...but it was actually my best friend. Since I didn't want to get her in trouble, I just got grounded for like 6 weeks. But think about it, that's better than having everybody staring at your dad whipping your butt!

And honestly, no matter what people tell you, a month is not bad at all!

Answer 6

why is the spanking a public thing, in my house it was always private, unless the humiliation part is part of the punishment. even still i would go with the spanking , so it would all be over and done with, but it's up to you : sit in your room for a month or sit for two hours in the corner with a sore (and bare) butt.

Answer 7

I'm sorry, but the second choice is a form of abuse. It's mental abuse. I'm for spanking (one swat on the bottom, clothed) in SERIOUS situations like running into the street. However, not to embaress or hurt the child. You're 13, it just isn't right. I'm 28 and the mother of 2. I would choose chioce #1. It will give you a chance to think and reflect on the choices you made that got you there. Hopefully you use it as a learning experience.

Answer 8

Wow take the month being grounded! Do not take a beating. First of all it is illegal for your parents to do that nowadays but dont say that to them.
Just take the grounding. You will actually get used to not watching tv. For the first few days it will stink and you will miss it. But after that you will find new things to do like read or play outside (shoot hoops, stuff like that). Or if you have any inside toys like a ping pong table then do that.
You can talk to your friends all day long at school. Also you can catch up on all your homework and for that 1 month you can make it a challenge to see how well you can do in school. Make it like an experiment for yourself. What can you accomplish in 1 month not watching tv or hanging out with friends outside of school.
Never choose a beating.
Note: however if you do take the unwise choice and you do choose the beating here is a good tip my brothers told me years ago: squeeze your butt cheeks together (squeeze your muscles) when getting paddled, it actually will help prevent pain, seriously. But still choose the other choice.

Answer 9

I would choose the paddling, shorter punishment. It's good to see your parents taking charge, and putting you in your place. They care about you & Love you. Go Mom & Dad.
By the way, spanking on the butt is not against the law as long it is not done with an object and only done with the hand.

Answer 10

SPANKING IS NOT CHILD ABUSE!!! Jesus people get it through your damn head. Abuse stems from not deserving the punishment. I would have been a dead girl if I pulled that stunt. I agree GO MOM AND DAD!! WHOO! However you seem to be the kind of person that may better appriciate your freedom you are allowed more after a month of not having.

Answer 11

Take your paddling and the bare-assed time in the corner. That beats 1 month of constant grounding, don't you think? So you'll have a sore *** for a few days...it's better than losing a month of your life.