i have a son and have been divorced twice my son is 8 and he wants a man is his life to do things with him i can"t or he thinks i can't anyway how would you all deal with this i can't just be with anything that comes my way and i have a very hard time trusting anyone after my last go rounds what do i do now
2007-01-10 18:09:55 · 11 answers · asked by c.c. c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Instead of dating look for a good male friend! Not with benefits just a friend. One that can help you out or maybe if you get to a trust level that you can allow him to help your son out personnally. I like the Big Bro Big sis program as one person pointed out. Maybe your father or your brother can help. Yes he does need a male role model but sometimes that doesnt happen. You can be there for him and help him out as his mom! And even if you did get remarried your son has trust issues too. Not just you. He has been in a whirlwind as well. Everything that happens to you is essentially happening to him. You can do it though! Take care of yourself and commit to being the best mom you can be. The rest will come. good luck. I have been in the single parent world myself and it is no cake walk!
2007-01-10 18:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kevs wife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your right about bringing just anybody into your son's life, that's not too healthy. You need someone who is consistent and reliable. Do you have a father, or brother that would like to take that job on? If not, how about the Big Brothers of America organization? They try to match the boys up with the men. The men are supposed to be well checked out. I heard it's a excellent organization, and would be a possible answer to your question. Good luck!
2007-01-11 02:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with ur son, am not in that sort of situation before but rushing into finding a man for ur son's sake is not a very bright idea at all. Explain to ur son about what's happening and as for urself, be patient, am sure there is someone good on the way.
2007-01-11 02:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok he is wanting a male figure in his life it doesnt have to be a boyfriend of yours it could be your dad, a brother a well trusted guy friend some one he can play video games with or go fishing just riding around spot lighting deer. i have a son that is 7 soon to be 8 and my brother comes and takes him out for the day just the two of them on saturdays. my son loves it. my brother usually picks him up around 9 they go out for breakfast at mcdonalds then go do what ever rather it be riding around, fishing riding the 4 wheeler. i dont ask my brother too he just does it tho. but he has been like that sence my son was 2. maybe you could talk to your brother or some one and see if they wouldnt come over some and spend time with him. but make sure its someone you know and can trust not to put your son in any danger. and make sure its someone you wouldnt mind your son looking up to.
2007-01-11 02:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very happy that you will not just accept anything that comes your way. Very good for you.
For the things that you "can't" do, well, the only thing that you can't do is be a man. So... Is he in sports? If so, I think good coaches are good mentors that he could go and do things with. Also, there are different organizations. There are volunteers at the YMCA that may be guys and good to mentor him.
He is sounding like he just wants a male role model. You don't have to date someone to find one.
I wish you the best and hope this helps.
2007-01-11 02:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by souplane21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do You have access to the male relatives of Your friends, or men in Your own family who can be a guiding influence on Your son"s development? Otherwise You may have to look into a "big Brother" type of community organisation.
2007-01-11 02:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big Brothers?
2007-01-11 02:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at age 8 its not that important to bond with a guy, however, youve got plenty of time to regain trust. make a decision to be single and get you and your boy involved in guy related activities...cub scouts is a start. you could be a 'den mother' :) peace.
2007-01-11 02:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a big brother program in your area?
2007-01-11 02:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look into the big brother programs
2007-01-11 02:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋