How do I deal with intense feelings of wanting to have a baby?

Question

I really want to have a baby. My husband wants to wait 2-3 more years. He wants to focus on saving. It is a good reason, but if we save less, then it would be in our budget to have a baby. I am 33. We want to have 3 kids (eventually). I want a baby so bad I feel a deep longing deep within my heart. I have wanted to be a Mom since I was 16. I waited until i married (3 years ago) and it is so hard to wait when i see babies every day and my best friend is expecting. How do i deal with these intense feelings? BTW, hubby is 30.

Answer 1

Considering your age and all he is being SELFISH and INCONSIDERATE.
You want and need this in your life and he should oblige.
Not to scare you, but the window of fertility for a female gradually begins to close in the 30's age group and by the late 30's it gets harder on a female to bear children. We try to have them while we are younger for a reason.
Screw his budget, for that's a lousy excuse to delay your motherly desires and needs. If I would have waited on a "budget" then I would have NEVER had my 3 children. I am a Dad by the way.
You need to seriously discuss this with this "husband" of yours and he needs to get off his "as*" and be the responsible husband and father to the 3 children that you want and need.
You would have no problem with me my dear. Its only fair to give a wife this duty and need.

Answer 2

Being a mom is a privilege and every man loves being a dad. BUT if you guys have an agreement to to get pregnant for a certain time. Than you need to talk about it more. Tall him you want to have children by him and that you think it is time,

Really think about it before you do that.
You are young You and your husband can go out when you want ,No waking up in the middle of the night , No getting pisst at him for not taking the baby, No gaining weight or puking early in the morning. NO STRETCH MARKS.
What are you really waiting for to have your children financial secure. Now if there is something else there that you are worried about. Being pregnant right now will only drive him away

Answer 3

you really need to express these deep feelings to your hubby....after all...unless you're the type who needs to have the biggest and best of every latest gadget....at first babies don't cost so much, you'd be amazed at how thrifty you can shop for clothing, etc......

so what you need to answer truthfully is are you gonna break hubby's bank with over spending cuz you'll be doting on this new life.....or do you work also? Actually that doesn't matter, I am a mother of two and I just turned 30...my youngest is 5 months and I will buy her new things but I have also managed to swallow my pride and accept second hand or shop at the vintage stores so I and my 3 yr. old son can survive too!!! Seriously, talk to hubby....maybe he has a lot of fears about a baby, which are completely natural btw, just reassure him that it's going to be ok!!

by the way, didn't you discuss this with him before you got married?

Answer 4

It's a decision you'll both have to make together. He does have a good point-- wait another couple of years until you've saved more (babies are EXPENSIVE!).

You're both still young, so enjoy these two years as alone/free time. When baby finally arrives, believe me, it'll change your lives FOREVER. You'll dream of days of sleeping in late, going out whenever you want, eating whatever you want for dinner, and general independence.

Two years seems like forever, so talk to your husband about a reasonable timeline. Say, "let's start trying by X date of this year". That way you can have a goal to look forward to. In the mean time, enjoy your freedom!

Answer 5

Perhaps you can convince him that your clock is ticking, as is your heart. And you'd really REALLY like to start working on that baby NOW. Since you just never know. It could take you 2 years to become pregnant + the time to carry....There's the 3 years! +I believe it's better all around when younger. To wait 2-3 years, you'll be over 50 by the time your child is 18!

Answer 6

Sounds to me like your husband is being smart. I can respect the fact that he knows you need to save. Being ready financially to have a baby is smart thinking, that is a very, very long term precious , but very expensive expense. I do hope all works out. Love is the main thing. Love each other and a baby. Both do have to commit to the child, if he is not ready, might need to wait.

Answer 7

in the beginning as you stated, you and your boyfriend weren't waiting to shelter and nurture a new child mutually and you probably did what you felt replaced into ultimate, with suggestion from different kinfolk, at that component. in case you had had the toddler then you definitely might the two ought to have jobs to help, abode and feed your toddler, you're able to be able to correctly be residing on a income and you're able to be able to correctly be residing from paycheck to paycheck in case you have been fortunate. Dont get too down on your self approximately it as lots of alternative women human beings do a similar factor. it is commonly used to sense insecure once you're in a house all on my own. all and sundry feels a similar way - checking the doorways two times, fending off particular rooms, feeling afraid. yet you're an grownup now and you're being asked to communicate care of your self the final way which you will so I advise which you triumph over your worry and walk into those rooms, verify that the home is sparkling and tidy and shield. do purely the final you could with what you have.

Answer 8

Tell him he will never save enough money in a hundred years to pay for 1 kid much less 3. You go to walmart as date night and buy diapers, wipes, cremes, hundreds of dollars of crap just for diaper rash. Children blled your bank accounts dry, but is is worth it. Tell hubby to put $1 in a jar for every diaper you go through and you will be millionaires by the time #3 gets out of them. Seriously.

Answer 9

I already have two unexpected blessings and I wanted one more that was planned. But my husband said"they don't come in any other kind so we are done" I have a boy and girl. I went to get my tubes tied and just couldn't do it. So I talked to him to let him know just how heavy this desire was. and you know..we are TTC one more. If he loves you and really does want to have children than he should understand your feelings. Also, once you reach 35 your chances for problems in pregnancy is a higher risk. you might want to tell him that and look up some articles on it too.

Answer 10

It like this when it time for you to enjoy being a mother there is not nothing no one can say about bring a child in this world! it is not time yet so you just sit back enjoy yourself when it time for you to come a Mother you will be a good one because I feel it ! when the time come to be a mother life changes a whole lot so just enjoy life at this time!