When a woman confesses she is raped, guys(ok some) automatically blames the victim saying "She's the one that did this and that and she's the one that wore this and that"?
Curious and it's annoying. Some women do too. (blame the victim).
2007-01-10 16:36:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
truthfully I think it is an excuse to get out of trouble. No one ever wants to be the blame of anything but it is very easy to put the blame on someone else than to accept what they have done. Sort of like a kid admitting they ate the cookie but blamed mom because she left the cookie jar out on the counter top.
2007-01-10 16:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by still_happy2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The victim isn't to blame unless he or she is the one that initiated it. Sometimes women and men do not know how much they can send mixed messages and in some cases that is when they get raped. But in most if not all cases the one who perpetrated it is the guilty one.
That is why Flirting and teasing can be a dangerous thing. So to avoid it all don't do it and then the victim will not be accused or blamed for it.
2007-01-10 16:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by just_me_thinking_&_smiling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion people who generally blame the victim either are naive and maybe feel that one gets what they deserve or just lucky to have not been violated period. I guarantee that if it happen to anyone who blames the victim or even if it happened ones child and them self had to deal with such a traumatic experience they wouldn't feel that way. I put my millions on it. No joke. Peoples minds are like umbrellas. When closed tight no matter how you swing it will remain closed, open it up and some might even get to see the big picture. We just simply have to pray for some people because we don't live a perfect world by far. lol
2007-01-10 16:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by mocca4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We see the world through the prism of our own experience. Maybe they have seen women act willingly and then claimed they were coerced. Personally having three sisters, a daughter, and a granddaughter I am a big believer of No means No. If you are an honest person you will give other people the benefit of the doubt.
2007-01-10 16:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By bf once did it to me, one of his friends who was married tried something with me i was in a state and didnt want to tell him eventually i did and he was furious but he could do anything about it because he needed to stay there he had no other place to go.
So the day he moved out he asked the guy about that day and the guy said that nothing happened and that i tried to get back at him that is way i told the story.
my bf called and ask me if im was sure that that was what happened i flippend and hang up when he come to see i was so angry i told him that he thought i would make such a story up, i mean seriously you dont joke about stuff like that
He even wanted me to go there to have a drink but i told him that i dont want to see the guys face again
my bf respected my wishes and we never went there again
2007-01-10 21:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very annoying. But their state of mind is, someone has to be to blame, and sometimes girls lie about it, cuz they made the mistake and had sex, and regret it, so they blame the guy, so the guy blames the girl. If that makes any sense.. at all. =P
2007-01-10 16:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Vanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the conservative puritanical Old Testament Christian influence on American society.
Any-, and every-, thing bad that happens is the result of sin on the part of the person it happens to.
Also, sexuality, particularly female sexuality, is the Devil’s tool sent here to tempt men and lead them astray (no doubt from their stupid, ugly, and nagging (but holy) wives).
Fundamentalists of all flavors are miserable, humanity-hating, and self-loathing people. The only thing they hate worse than sinful women is the thought that someone – somewhere – might be having fun and enjoying life.
It is their mission to spread misery to every corner of the earth. And if non-believers don’t like it, ..well…then… they will be burned, tortured, ripped apart, gutted, and have their heads whacked-off – thank you very much, and praise God.
2007-01-10 16:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe its because, when a woman confesses that, guys think she is having a go at men, so being cruel is their way of making sure women dont hate them. i dont think it works very well.
i think some guys just dont know how to react and they dont want to seem gay by comforting women.
2007-01-10 16:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I have to admit that some women to do dress provocatively, it doesn't lend itself to a woman deserving to be raped.
2007-01-10 16:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our society is sick. We insist on a double standard in many areas. This is only one of them. This is why I no longer respect 'Society'. It's all a big lie favoring the powerful over the weak.
2007-01-10 16:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋