if yo have a 6 year old daughter and your spouse has a7 year old son that can not get along, what should you do????? for the married and engaged only!
2007-01-10 16:33:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it can go along. Girls have always been more mature that boys .They always want to show themselves tough so try something like skating. At a skating rink spend time with the girl and the boy. Then the next weekend do something the boy likes(That stretches the girl a little bit) Now the boy still has something that he like. Children are versatile but they are always questioning their place so give them each attention. Remember they didn't ask for this but they do want the best of this situation.
2007-01-10 18:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not really sure what you mean by "not getting along" - is it some sort of mutual distaste, sibling rivalry, or something more serious? Also, a lot would depend on your living situation - if these kids live together under the same roof 24/7, the strategy would probably be a bit different then if they only see each other on major holidays a few times a year. Perhaps taking them both into couseling would help the whole family? At this age, their dislike of each other should be manageable.
2007-01-11 00:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are now a blended family. There should be house rules that follow the basic... respect one another's privacy and things, no hitting, etc or there are consequences. Make sure you and your husband are on the same page about discipline and always follow thru with consequences, no matter how hard it is. Try to install pride as being the corner stone of your new family and how you need to take care of one another. Good Luck
2007-01-11 00:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by schmitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't force them to get along. I have two children, and they don't get along, either. That is just an age when girls and boys don't have that much in common and they are each trying to find their own identity. Toss in mommy and daddy being married to new people and that just adds to the stress. Acknowledge that they don't get along and leave it at that. Don't force them to spend time together or play together or whatever. For time spent as a family, they need to respect your desire to have a peaceful time, so they should not be allowed to bicker and fight...tell them if they cannot get along then they cannot talk to each other. Once they have some solid family time under their belts, and as they get to know each other better, they will eventually come around. It just cannot be forced.
2007-01-11 00:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by bashnick 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I may sound rude here but surely not trying I'm just being blunt....key word is "kids" bottom line is your daughter and his son....being as young as they are need to have a talking to!!!!
As adults you need to say this is NOT gonna be allowed....learn to like each other or consequences...talk to your spouse about what punishments are agreed by the 2 of you set goals....Don't let them control you...take it back they can learn to like each other...too young not to unless you let it...they have to learn to get along with people they do not like to get along in society period like for a job you know what I mean....I wish you luck!!! E-mail me if you need any support seriously I feel for you!
2007-01-11 00:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A) Find a family counselor.
B) Consider this - If you can't handle a 7 year old kid then you need to take a good long look at yourself in the mirror.
2007-01-11 01:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what you've tried so far. I would maybe try a fun outing and try to give them some common ground to start on.
If you've exhausted all of your resources, maybe try family counseling. That might help give you ideas to help the kids get along.
2007-01-11 00:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I presume children are from previous relationships?? Don't worry, my 3 kids,5 years apart can't stand each other and constantly fight. I tell them I'm going to out them in a cage and the one who kills the other two is the winner. Just kidding.
2007-01-11 00:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
kids are supposed to unite against authority. Put them in the same boat all the time and stay united with your spouse. Don't play the my kid your kid thing. A drill instructor will make his men think he is unfair, at the same time uniting them into a cohesive unit.
2007-01-11 01:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You two are the parents. Your children are young. You tell them they need to learn to get along and if that means respecting eachothers space then so be it, but if they can't learn how to behave then there will consequences. Period, end of story -- in my book anyway!!
2007-01-11 00:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by slickchick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋