She claims there are no problems at school with kids, teachers, or the work, but when I seem to see her at the start of the day the odd times, she is standing by herself, looking miserable. She is a sweet girl, and would do anything to help anybody, but she seems to keep to herself. She is an EIP student(meaning she is enrolled in a special problem for a slower learner), but still seems to give up easy on working toward her dream of becoming a veteranarian when she is older. Please help, I have to go to work everyday then come home and find out she didn't go again.
2007-01-10 16:16:57 · 6 answers · asked by KIM S 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
I am a high school teacher and I observe all kinds of student behavior on a daily basis. Over the past 5 years, I can recall several students that could not bring themselves to attend school (each probably believed that their circumstaces were unique).
I would suggest that you and your daughter get into family counseling...maybe a thearapist can identify one or more problems and suggest options/solutions to try. Sometimes students feel "lost" like they don't fit in, or the school might feel too large for them.
Sometimes, finding a "school buddy" can help a child who is withdrawn. The "buddy" can collaborate on class assignments etc.
I would consider looking into a smaller school for your daughter, possibly a charter school that caters to children with learning disabilities. It is likely that there are public schools in your area, that are specially equipped to work with students like your daughter. Such schools often have very low teacher to student ratios, and most likely, the teachers and aides are certified in Special Education.
Your school's district office should have information about what types of charter schools the district has to offer.
I hope you find a lasting solution!
Regards,
The Rambler
2007-01-10 17:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rambler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not doing what she's told then she needs to be reprimanded for going against what she is told to do. She needs to punished or have certain privileges taken away for example. In the meantime I suggest you have a meeting with her school counselor to discuss you concerns so that it's known that you are making an effort for her to attend should she fall back a grade or you recieve unwanted attention from social services due to her persistent absences. You're the parent period. Kids are always going to do what they want to do but they can't. There are some things to compromise on but attending school and recieving a quality education just has no room for compromise.
There is something she must not feel comfortable expressing to you because there is no obvious explanation. I would suggest spending some time on campus if your schedule allows or becoming more involved with her school in some capacity.
2007-01-11 00:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesting to me my dear and please lesting very good because all
what I am going to say to you is the fact and I meen you and you child all the best in the world! Now the problem that you say your child has, she dos not have any problem but ONE The only problem your child has that is YOU. You are the child problem, and I will tell you how. You are one who say you loved your child to DEATH and that's what you are doing to her. Now who is the
Child? and who is the parent?. It seems like she is the parent because you leave her to go to school while you gone to work to work to maintained her and you came home she did not go to school and what did you do to her your BABY?? You get where I am going?? That little girl in the house is raising you and ruling
you and you have taken her place as the child. And I will bet you
any thing you named.That little girl have the most EXPENSIVE
close Snekers and desiner close in her clasic that you go out every day to slaved to buy for her.If you just let that child be her self like you say she is quyet what do you want her to do? have a lot of friends and make a lot of noise and be voistrous? may be she is like that but not in frount of you and if she is even not like that you should be glad to know that she keep her self to her self.
You are suffericating that child to much you are smuddling her to deate, like you say you loved her to death that is what you are doing to her. Yuo are not allowing the child to think for her self &. your raising a person that will be depended no others may be true her life time. so you will have to step back and let the child breath let her do what you say and not what she say you do! But
you know what? It may be alittle too late now because may be if
you want to start to trained her now she may tell you what to do with your self because you should done all that years ago so the
horse may already gone true the barn gate . The other thing I will bet you any thing. I bet you she is the only one?
If it was a boy I would garrante you that you are raiseing him for ths Police I dont know what way your daughter will take! she may
even take the same way as well and up in the police hand or on
the welfaif line, and that will all because of my mother. Sit that child down and talk to her or ask some one who she is slose to and trust let them talk with her because some thing is worring that child. By the way where is her Father? is he in the house?
Were they, or are they, closed to each other? I meen dos she see hin often? if he is not in the home do they spent any time togather or you have been poisening her mind againest him? Your dartor need some things other than material things and your
smottling her like you are doingto her. Start to puting your feet down and the first thing you do is to demand her to get out of the house and get her self to school and start doing thing around the house. a little televesion and more school work and fiend out what's on her mind because there are some thing on her mind but rember I told you this YOU ARE YOUR DAUGHTER'S PROBLEM nothing elce By for now>>>>>.
2007-01-11 01:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by norman j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple, find out who the parent is and the child is and then take it from there. Because she is in sped and has an IEP doesn't mean that she can be excused from any consequences. You're using her being a slow learner as a crutch. Go back to my first sentence and then move forward.
2007-01-11 14:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by robdow2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was like that alot and she also has the slow learning problems .. my daughter dont comprehend things very well and they get made fun of alot .. i would see if mabey a grandparent or someone can get her to open up and i would also call the school and ask the guidance counceler to check in on her and see if somthing is going on they can see in school alot of what is going on that we cant because we arent there and when a parent goes it its like omg mom and dad people are here act normal
2007-01-11 00:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by jazieyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. if she is an EIP, maybe shes facing problems with the people in her school.
and she doesnt want you to know, thats why she claimed that she has no problems..
maybe you should take a day off of work and go check at her school.
2007-01-11 00:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by fohreels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋