please give advice about bad relationship between husband and dad?

Question

my husband and i have been married for 6 yrs and we're xpecting our first child. we were friends for about two yrs and dated for about 4 yrs b4 we got married. the whole time, him and my dad have NOT gotten along and have had a few very big fights. my husband is not perfect but i have never had a good relationship with my dad and he has been verbally abusive many times. this recent blow up essentially we were disowned and aren't supposed to come to thier house (my mom isn't really involved in this tho, so...???). has anyone been in a similar situation and/or have any advice in general? i'm slightly surprised that i don't really feel upset by what my dad said (many yrs of dissappointment in him maybe?), but i do with my mom and the rest of my decent sized family and i am concerned about how things can effect our baby and them.

Answer 1

you've got a wonderfull family of your own~now your dad should realise that you have grown up and can make your own responsible decisions.you do not need to be told how to live your life at this age ! your happiness is important.always follow your heart and see what makes you happy.see its not always that husbands and dads do get along but they do not have to get on each other's nerves.let them keep a distance if need be and in time your dad may realise and exept him.Keep in touch with your mom,as you got only one precious mom ~(send her secret cards if you want) Be your charming best and dont get agitated.The biggest of problems have been solved with a peacefull appraoch.In the mean while keep pampering yourself and keep fit..coz all this can take a toll on your health ! stay happy.. no matter what..you and your baby come first - may you give birth to a rocking child !

Answer 2

sounds like u need to agree to disagree and to just agree to be civil maybe not listen or talk with him but still live the best you can trying not to let this get in between you and the rest of your family.