If a girl becomes unhappy in a relationship after 5 years 11 months is it over or can i make her happy again. She only tells me this stuff when i fight with her and recently blew up on me for not answering my phone when i went to my friends. That was 6 day before her period P.M.S. i think. But she said vicious things like i dont like you anymore and i dont want to get married to you. The next day we hung out like nothing happened and i asked her are we together always she said yes. I then asked when are we getting married she said when i feel better, soon.
Anyway shes unhappy how and can i make her happy again. I'm depressed because of this and i can't move on its killing me i need your advice and you experiences. And if you have gone through this same thing then tell mewhat happened in your relationship. I'm 21 and she 20 and we plan to get married by next year.
p.s.
We still have sex and i know she wants to because she asks to go down on me after and she is very wet during the sex
2007-01-10 15:57:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my boyfriend and i are in a similar situation.... about the same ages as you two, and we have been together for about the same time frame as well. Lots of people will tell you "oh youre too young, break up now while you have your whole life ahead of you, blah blah blah"..... honestly, dont break up because others tell you thats what should happen. If you love the girl, try to make her happy and ask her what you can do to make her happy. Maybe she is frustrated with other things in the relationship or in other aspects of her life and she is just lashing out because she may not know how to say the things she wants to. Don't lose yourself in it though. If you feel in your heart you just cant please her anymore, walk away for a while.... maybe there is someone else better fit for you, or maybe you two are fit for one another but just not at this point in time. You are a good guy though..... i wish my boyfriend was trying to make me happy! haha - instead im running in circles trying to figure out how i didnt see he was a mommas boy and a selfish jerk for so long:) But, like i said to you, because i love him i will stick around and try.... but i refuse to lose myself in it. I dont want to cry for the rest of my life, and you dont want to feel like a failure in your relationship for the rest of YOUR life. good luck! ps: sex is only a part of it- dont base anything on it!!
2007-01-10 17:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by MJM2B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes 2 to make a happy relationship. You would be very dishonest if you continued with your plans to marry her feeling the way you do. These things might go away on a temporary basis but will come up again unless it's addressed now. Maybe she has the same thoughts as you. If you allow yourself to be talked to this way, it will never change. You have to let her know thta you find it very rude and disrespectful. Being on edge does not mean to lash out at the person your supposed to love. Communication is the key to a happy marriage. I hope things work out for you! Best Wishes!
2007-01-10 16:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's got you on her roller coaster. You've just got to ask yourself is this ride too expensive? If it is get off at the next stop. If not buckle up cause you're in for a long ride.
Twenty-one is way too young to marry someone you have doubts about, and her happiness should not be contingent on your behavior. She should be a happy whole person with or without you.
2007-01-10 16:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Pleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are very young. Same thing happened to me. Me and my boyfriend of the time where growing apart. She sounds like she is hanging on to you till something better comes along. Sex has nothing to do with it. Sounds like time to think of breaking up before you both hate each other.
2007-01-10 16:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋