How can we change our personality?

Question

I am a kind of person who doesn't have any aggressive emotion, this has become a drawback in my career. how can i change this attitude. my boss says i don't have fire, i'm filled with ice cubes

Answer 1

Your personality is basically developed by the time your are 4 years old (believe it or not.) You can not change your personality because that is innate within you. What you can change, which is what you are talking about, are personal qualities or traits.

You can resolve this in a few ways:

Read books on the subject
take some classes
seek assistance from a coach on the subject

Your boss should have said you need to be assertive and not aggressive. I bet he is a male. Assertiveness comes with confidence and you can certainly learn to be confident. This is important in the work place as a lot of jobs require their employees to have a degree of assertiveness to reach company goals or to meet objectives. It is a fair statement - he is giving you some coaching but maybe in a poor way.

Answer 2

Don't change something so wonderful. These are tihngs that will help you keep your cool when everyone else is blowing their smoke stacks! Be content with your skill. You can still learn a passion for your job but be filled with ice cubes. (Nasty thing to say by the way.)

BUT how do we change our personalities? We need to have a life changing experience that teaches us a paradigm shift in brain function. Like the death of someone we love, a change in a career the addition of a new member to the family. Fundamental life changing things like that will always result in a new personality.

Just willing it to happen doesn't work to my knowledge.

Answer 3

Don't worry about what your boss says Pluto. Being cool is not everybody's cup of tea, and I am sure ''agressive emotions'' don't guarantee anything.

However, I would still like to answer your question: "How to change our personality?'' There are two ways, one obvious and the other subtle.

The obvious way is to analyse what changes you want to bring in your personality and why. Your reasons should be strong enough to give you the motivation. Then you have to make a list of Do's & Don'ts, and strive hard to stick to it.

The subtle and more effective way is to BELIEVE. You start beieving that you are the person you want to be. You have to constantly affirm yourself of this day in and day out. The rest will happen automatically.

Answer 4

How WE change OUR personality? first of all I dont think personality is something such that can be changed like mobile covers anytime by anybody for any dm reasons.

All one needs to is just FOCUS in ones job and on oneself.

Mind it whatsoever aggressiveness, assertiveness one artificially develops - it may : -
1. not be an add. to your merit
2. only reward as revenue to your boss (for the time being).

You therefore need to have LOTS of patience and even with a slow but the gradual and a continuing process that one would develop oneself in due course of time - One may turn out to be far more Confident, Perfect & Precise as compared to his colleagues
- And at that point of time one realizes that that very state where one is cold or lack aggression or assertiveness has only enabled him / her to have an edge over others NOW.

Answer 5

All personalities have positive traits that can be used in a productive way. If you can get a copy, read Personality Plus by F. Littauer. It is a great book about personalities and how to change your negative traits and use the positive ones to your advantage. You may be in the wrong career for your personality and would do very well in something else. Good luck.

Answer 6

Thinking of changing anything in yourself because someone does not like it, particularly such a grand fool as your boss certainly is not a desirable thing. Don,t even think about it. Just ask your boss to burn in his own fire if he has too much of it.

Answer 7

You don't need an agressive attitude in business. Agressiveness is not an attribute. Assertiveness is the attribute needed for the coporate world. Assertiveness shows confidence in oneself. Bosses appreciate this attribute.

Answer 8

Maybe your stuck in Pluto which, by the way, is no longer a planet so I don't know what you are going to hold onto. Also, why don't you change your Avatar to a picture of a lightning bolt?

Answer 9

your boss should not say things like that. Change careers and find something you will be happy doing

Answer 10

Ice cubes...in the sense that you are a cold type person? Wow...how do you let out your anxiety! I have to vent...and I do...believe me! Years ago...I used to get my toes stepped on...and then I realized that I wasn't going to take it anymore! I think that your volcano will erupt soon...I mean...it has to...or you will explode!...and I also think that could be alittle dangerous...don't you?