Let's say you do a weekly dinner with family where it rotates houses. There's you, your mother, your sister and a niece (and their families, 12 people total). So everyone hosts and makes dinner once a month. The nieces husband gets unexpectantly sent to Iraq for a year. Would you expect the neice to continue her rotation or would you skip her as a way to help her out while her husband is gone? Note, she has a 3-year-old and an 11-month-old.
2007-01-10 15:48:17 · 9 answers · asked by Heidi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't mean leave her out of the weekly dinner, just skipping her turn to cook.
2007-01-10 16:02:55 · update #1
No, no skipping, but how about if someone helps her and "shares" the meal? Especially if there is a financial bind, but keep her in, she needs family and the support you all have by bonding with each other every week.
2007-01-10 16:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mary Lou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite her but not suggest we do it at her house cause she still needs your support know that her husband is gone so let her know its okay to come to the weekly dinners,after all its to get the family together and she is family
2007-01-10 23:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say give her the option so that she feels that she's making the decision to host or not. She might be insulted if she thinks the family thinks she's incapable of holding down the fort and functioning while he's gone.
2007-01-10 23:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats so sad. no she shoulnd't have to make dinner. why doen't everyone bring something and have a pot loc kinda thing. or else just dont go to her house at all. you guys should be giving her a hand, which would lean to the best idea of bringing the food to her at her home and give her a break!
2007-01-10 23:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't want to leave her out. You could help with the dinner arrangements. Ask her what she wants to do. I don't think she'd want to be kicked out of the circulation. Just ask her.
2007-01-11 00:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she wants to do it. Some people draw comfort from continuing things that are normal parts of their routine.
2007-01-11 00:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id ask her what she preferred to to, if she feels up to continuing perhaps you could go earlier in the afternoon etc to help look after the kids while she cooks.
if she doesn't think she could cope, skip her.
2007-01-10 23:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by desert_rose1274 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her, I'm sure she still wants to take her turn. She must need you guys more than ever.
2007-01-10 23:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's still family so treat her like one.
2007-01-10 23:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋