My ex-boyfriend (from 20+ years ago) and I finally got together last week for a "reunion". FYI, he found me on the internet and initiated the contact. He said that he had been looking for me all this time. We are now both married. Well, he said that he liked what he saw and complimented me on how I've preserved myself all these years. He said that I was all that he's been thinking about since we reconnected. He asked if I would like to do "it" again with him for old time's sake, and then quickly changed the topic. Slip of the tongue or what? Of course, I acted like I didn't hear the question. He seemed embarrassed and did not pursue the issue. In all honesty, it was good to see him again. It's always a nice feeling, I guess, to reunite with long-lost friends. What was that all about?
2007-01-10 15:44:13 · 12 answers · asked by Confused_Rep 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doesn't sound like much of a slip of the tongue to me. Sounds pretty obvious if he's been tracking you down for 20 yrs. Looks like the guy is trying to relive something he thinks he missed out on. Maybe his marriage has gone bad and he's remembering good old times. Either way, sounds like trouble.
2007-01-10 15:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is everything that you thought it was. He made a pass at you.
Sounds like mid-life crises stuff for the both of you. Not everyone gets a second chance and this sounds like a fantasy that most of us dream of.
Of course there is some serious reality that interferes with the both of you following through with a clear conscience.
It sounds like the offer is there on the table if you choose to accept it.
If you do it for old time's sake....it might be disappointing...if you don't, you will always wonder what it would have been like.
Good Luck to the both of you.
C-F
2007-01-10 15:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't a slip of the tongue. It was a hint to see what your reaction would be. You are both married and deserve better than that. Seeing old friend is great, but not worth losing yourself and those you love over so make it clear to him that that is not what you are looking for. I am sure it will 'slip' more.
2007-01-10 15:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by dana j 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants more than you do! He didn't mention it again because you acted like you didn;t hear him. It is nice to see people after years, but just remember you were with him once, so he might get the wrong idea, if you see him again.
2007-01-10 15:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was wishful thinking on his part make no mistake.
You have an ardent admirer.
Treat yourself to the affirmations and mischief excitement of having someone pay that little bit of fresh attention to you.
Why not.
You are a big enough girl to set boundries.
He will try to lead up to it .....
2007-01-11 10:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were willing to meet with him, despite the fact that both of you are married, he was probably hoping he'd get laid. He was testing the waters when he asked you the question. Why are you getting together with an ex-bf from twenty years ago when you are married?
2007-01-10 16:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore it and don't bring it up ever. It was an honest offer. HOWEVER, it was probably out of his mouth faster than his brain could censor. If you have more contact with him, expect for the "slip" to happen again. (because it will)
2007-01-10 16:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he was hoping you'd be willing to have an affair with him. That sounds extremely slimy to me, I don't think that I would keep talking to him. Obviously he was searching for someone to cheat on his wife with, since he looked you up and said that to you. What a sleaze! Steer clear
2007-01-10 15:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't make you do anything girl but imagine if your husband found out!Just back away from the ex slowly lol...Tell him you appreciate the compliments but NO you can't rekindle the bedroom flame!
2007-01-10 15:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by !!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband know what you've been doing? I think it was very disrespectful. It sounds like you like the slip of the tongue. Shame on you.
2007-01-10 16:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋