Uncircumcised Men..?

Question

Do you wish you would have been circumcised? Do you have hard feelings towards your parents for not having it done?
I ask this question because my first son I had circumsiced even though I didn't want to (my husband insisted he get done) but when I became pregnant for another boy I refused to have him done. I regreted getting our first done so much that I just wouldn't allow it but now I'm not so sure. Mainly because I don't want him to feel different from his father and brother. Please tell me what you think. Should I get him done because of his father and brother or for any other reason?

I would like to thank all of you for your input. Some of you helped me greatly and I am unable to chose a favorite. So thank you all, and I'm sure the ones that helped me the most know who they are:)

Answer 1

I am very active and am glad that I am circumcised. It is easy to clean unlke my uncut counterparts. It is better for keeping free of sickness and it just looks better to me. Unfortunately we can not ask the boy when they are little to make it their decision.

Answer 2

I'm dissapointed that so many circumcised men answered this question despite the fact that it specifically asked for responses from uncircumcised folks. Clearly, circumcision must have some impact on their ability to read...(lol j/k j/k! don't thumbs down me!)

As an uncircumcised guy yes, I wish I had been cut at birth. However, that's only because of a problem that developed (not an infection, but other stuff) later on. Had this problem not developed (which, alas, I must be circumcised for), I wouldn't have wanted to be cut. I most certainly DO NOT have hard feelings towards my parents for not having it done. They made what they thought was the best decision for me at the time, and had no way of even remotely knowing that in the future I'd need to be cut. As far as I know, my brother and father both have never had problems with it, and what I have is relatively rare.

I personally think that regardless of what you do, your son will not hold it against you. Deep down inside, he'll know you did what you thought was best at the time. I think you're getting a lot of replies from both cut and uncut guys who favor their own status, since quite frankly that's all they've known their entire life, and it's difficult to imagine anything else. Uncut guys are hesitant to say they wish part of their skin had been cut off. Cut guys, since they're unfamiliar with how to care for an uncircumcised penis automatically think it's dirty and prone to infection (fyi, the incidence of infection isn't statistically that much higher than in circumcised boys, particularly UTI's; i've read the studies, before anyone comes back with the "go read the report" bs). You can't blame either party for what they don't know.

My personal advice is, keep him uncircumcised. More and more boys are uncut these days and the percentage will just keep growing. However, if he asks to have it done, or when you think he's old enough for you to ask him, don't hesitate to schedule an appointment with your doctor. Leave it up to him; that way, the guilt isn't on you. It's his body afterall...

Answer 3

I grew up uncircumcised and I always resented the fact that my parents had not had me circumcised as an infant - I felt that they had let me down. I eventually had my circumcision some 20 years ago as an adult, by choice and for no medical reason. It was one of the best things that I have ever done. Circumcision gave me better hygiene, comfort, appearance, self-esteem and FAR better sexual sensation for both me and my wife (who loves it and is very much in favour of male circumcision). There are just no disadvantages to being circumcised, regardless of what the anti-circ freaks tell you - they are usually inexperienced young women or uncircumcised men, so what can they know? You should get your son circumcised for all the reasons that I have outlined and for a whole lot more - it's your duty to do the right thing for him and he will thank you for it in the future.

Answer 4

Well Circumcision is losing its popularuty, However from a hygiene point circumcision is far more healthy than non circumcised. There is alo a risk of paraphymosis which is strangulation of the penis if the skin is retracted and fails to return. This is not uncommon. In gact there is an increasedc incidence since the circumcisions of males were reduced in numbers.
I am glad I had it done, my brother almost lost his pensis after trying to clean it by retraction of the foreskin. He was too embarrassed to tell anyone and it went black in a very short time. It was fortunate that he trusted me to confide in otherwise he would be ninus his altogether.

My advice? get it done as early as possible its much more painful later on and has higher risk of infection. Ther is alo the known gact that many more women are attracted to a circimcised penis over the smelly uncircimcised one

Answer 5

Some people say you enjoy sex more if you're uncircumcised but I have no idea as I've been circumcised since birth.

Answer 6

it is strictly personal. depending on who you read (medical literature) men have survived thousands of years without it being done and have had no ill effects...anoother source may say that the chances of penile cancer are increased in the uncirc'd population...
when my son was born 2 yrs ago, we didn't have him circ'd because we both wanted him to be natural...now that he is 2 yrs old, during his bath every night now, we retract the foreskin and when he gets old enough, I will teach him how to do it on his own.
I think that the trend is changing...more boys being born that aren't circ'd on the way home...i know that when i was dating in high school, a girl friend would perform oral sex on me faster than a circ'd boy because she said that she like the extra skin "it was sexy" and another girl dropped me after the first date because she did not like it (i know that is not what you wanted to hear about your little boy, but it will be very real for him in a few years)
will he be different in school and when boys "compare", yes he will, but you need to help him to understand that he came natural and his friends that he will see have been altered...if he understands what the difference is, he may be more proud that you left him intact...of course that may cause a rift between he and his brother...mom, why does he have extra skin and I don't...that you will have to think about...
my opinion...leave him alone, teach him to care for himself when he is ready and be happy
good luck

Answer 7

You know what I don't like is when people call uncircumsized men dirty. They think that uncircumsized men don't clean their genitals. I clean my self very well. And I didn't really have a choice of being circumsized or uncircumsized. I just grew up with whatever my parents chose for me or not chose at all.

Answer 8

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No.

<< Do you have hard feelings towards your parents for not having it done? >>

No.

It is cosmetic surgery. If it is important to a parent, they should do it. If not, they shouldn't.

I often wonder if the autism epidemic has a connection to circumcision.

Communities in the US that don't circumcize (the Amish, for instance) have almost no autism. Communities that do, tend to be part of the epidemic.

I just don't see a good reason to perform this needless surgery.

The AMA and the american association of pediatrics have both come out and said there is absolutely zero medical justification for circumcision.

Answer 9

Just because you made a mistake with your first son shouldn't mean your second son has to suffer as well. He will differ from his brother in many other ways too, so they will not think it is any stranger that one has a foreskin and the other not than that one has bigger ears than the other. And your husband should not be comparing penises with his sons! Being intact is so much better for your child -- it's his body, and you should let him keep it whole.

If you are in doubt, watch the video at http://www.cirp.org/library/procedure/plastibell/

Answer 10

Hello =)

Well,....You realize that your son will suffer greatly, if you have it done now, don't you??

It is supposedly a very painful thing to go through, which is why it should either be done, or not done, at birth, when the pain will never be remembered, and the birth-trauma already has the infant in shock.

Namaste,

--Tom

Answer 11

i know i answered your first question but i can answer here also.i am about 3/4 through foreskin restoration and am pretty happy with the results.what i have know feels much more comfortable and warm than i was before.but i still wish i was never circumcised.let your son stay as he is.if your father or mother or sister or brother had lost a body part would you want the same body part removed so you would be the same as them?please don't let you son go through what i am.i want my normal penis back.