My husband and I used to work in two different countries for a long time. We saw each other once a year or even longer. During this period, I happened to know a guy who liked me at the first sight. After he told me that I just let him know I was married. He gave up. But because of our work we had to see each other very often. The feelings were still there when he talked to me and stared at me. I began to like him back. There were always some other guys who liked me, but I could not resist him.
I didn't want to ruin the life of three people. I hided my feelings and avoided any contact with him. Sometimes I was rude. Later he quitted the job and moved to another city. I left too. Since then we've had no contact.
I thought I would forget him when living with my husband. I'm satisfied with our great marriage. We love each other and my husband likes spoiling me. But I am still thinking about that guy and feel painful. It's been almost 2 years...... I hate myself.
2007-01-10 15:30:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the dream is always better than the reality until the dream becomes real. I dont think its actually him youre thinking about but the possibility of a perfect encounter. You didnt act on it. Had you acted on it by now you would have realized that mans imperfections and faults and he would no longer be to inviting to you. You are engaging yourself in some wonderful fantasy that doesnt really exist. Fantasy is always better then the reality we live in but when we try to live out the fantasy we find out its not so wonderful.
So be glad you didnt throw away your marriage on something that in the end would have probably disappointed you anyway.
Remember that what youre thinking about in your head is the perfection of it (the fantasy), not the reality.
2007-01-10 17:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly give yourself a big hand of applause you stuck to your marriage vows and that's great so don't let yourself go on thinking about this guy cause if it was really meant to be you guys would have found a way to be together so take this time to make up for lost times with your husband and let yourself go of the past and tell your husband about what happend but not that you really liked that guy you will feel much better,good luck
2007-01-10 23:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it already.If you have a great husband concentrate on him. How would you feel if he did the same to you? Not very good, I think. Be grateful and appreciate what you have.
2007-01-10 23:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, you should be proud of yourself!
You stayed faithful and now you and your husband are together.
Don't beat yourself down.
Most woman would have gave in to a situation like that, but you stayed strong!
2007-01-10 23:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really satisfied with you marriage you would not be thinking about another guy! so you have to be true to yourself about your feeling!
2007-01-10 23:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by keep_it_smileing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there and done that too.
i don't have a clue either. maybe time?
no need to hate yourself. these things happen to a lot of people.
some act on them and some don't.
forgetting someone who made you feel special is difficult, just give it some time.
good luck.
2007-01-10 23:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, first work on your past tense---
and yea... was he a friend, or more?
hmm... I wish there was some way to help you...
but don't hate yourself. never that. love yourself. :)
2007-01-10 23:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To forget is to not think about that person.
2007-01-11 00:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋