How do you resist commiting adultery?

Question

My ex and I have been discussing this the last couple of times I have seen him. He is married now and I am in a engagement. He works at a store close to my house and when I go in there sometimes we chat. Lately sexual jokes have been coming up and he has been getting jealous when I ask for condoms from him. He asks me a lot about the man I'm with now. I'm not going to lie, I ask him for the condoms because a part of me wants to rub it in because we broke up by his decision. But I feel like if he is married now he shouldnt have a problem with me buying condoms. I'll ask and he'll put everything in the bag except the condoms. If I ask again he will refuse them to me and I have to ask another clerk. He's done this 4 times in the past 3 months. We made a lot of sex jokes about us the last time I saw him. I dont believe in adultery, but a part of me just wants to go ahead with it and do it like I've never done it before. But I know that would be wrong. How can you resist it?

Answer 1

Don't do it. A few minutes of forbidden pleasure can never never compensate for broken lives. Don't do it. He's a jerk. He wants it both ways. Think of his wife who is a woman just like you. Always think of the other woman. We women need to stick together. Remember it will break her heart if she finds out. Put yourself in her shoes. He is not worth all that. Be wise.

Answer 2

If you're serious about resisting temptation then go buy the condoms somewhere else. It sounds like you're enjoying playing these "games" with your ex. How would you feel if your fiance was trifling with another woman? Most likely you wouldn't...so don't do it to him.

Think through the situation: If you were to cheat on your fiance with your ex, sooner or later all parties involved would be hurt. You would eventually get found out. It's inevitable. Your relationship with your fiance would either end, or never be the same because the trust would be gone or severely damaged. You're ex would be gone too because he's married. Your ex's wife would be hurt (although, you may not care) because he cheated on her with you. Several lives (including yours) would be hurt because of one selfish decision.

If you choose to have sex with your ex...you better be prepared to accept the consequences (which may haunt you for weeks and months to come) of your actions. Adultery carries a high price!

Answer 3

you have to ask yourself, do you love your current boyfriend enough, since you are engaged sounds like you do atleast you should. Then ask yourself, are you setting yourself, would you want his other ex to flirt with him had he married you? Or would you be happy finding out that your current fience still flirts with his ex and have a conduct such as yours. And then ask yourself, do I like the attention and the idea that he still fancies you in a sexual way? and that you do still want him like that? Then lastly ask yourself, is his store the only store in your neighborhood if the answer is no to the other questions? And if the answer is no then go shop somewhere else, let him be with his wife, and if he doesn't love her anymore, and loves you still let him decide that for himself. Don't help him by playing around.
Just understand that if the cards were flipped and you were his wife and his wife was you, i wonder if you'd be content with him flirting with her like that and come home and pretend to be a great hubby. So leave him alone and tell him that was then and now is now you've both moved on and you respect his marriage and your relationship with your current man and don't want to hurt anyone. Then leave it at that. go buy condoms somewhere else!!.

Answer 4

You are answering your own question!
It.
Is.
Wrong.
You know that. You are engaged, for god's sake! Incidentally, you don't mention anything about your feeligns for your fiancee...Do you even have any feelings for him?

You are totally setting yourself up! Why on earth would you purposefully go to a place where you know you will see your ex, and then, of all things, make sex jokes with him, and buy condoms from him?!!
If your impending marriage fails, or never happens to begin with, it will be all your own fault.

You ask "How to resist"?
But you are the one you have to resist. You are the one making the advances, by gonig to the store, by going through his checkout lane, by proceeding to converse inappropriately with him. Do you really not see this??

You need to cut off contact with him now. You are creating the problem--now destroy it.

Answer 5

I don't really understand your question, obviously you know that cheating is wrong. If he is married then he has absolutely no business making sex jokes with his ex. You are engaged why would you be so interested in frequenting a place where your ex works and acting like that? You need to ask yourself how would you feel if your fiance was acting that way with his ex, would you be okay with that or would you think it was wrong? I think you need to steer clear of your ex otherwise you two could end up hurting some innocent people.
It's not worth it!

Answer 6

First of all, he would be the one committing adultery since he is married and you are not. You would be cheating. Both of which are very wrong. If you love your fiance, then be true to him and sever all ties to this "ex" of yours. He will probably only leave you after he got what he wanted anyway, and then where would you be? The best way to NOT commit adultery is to simply NOT do it. Go home to your loved one and move on without the "ex" . There is a reason that he is called your EX......think about it.

Answer 7

Stop going to the store! If you commit adultery you will hurt your finance AND his wife. Nothing good has ever come from an affair- it leads to heartache and tears. Imagine if your finace finds out- your wedding might be cancelled that would also involve your parents/his parents.

Is that REALLY what you want, just to have a night of passion and show your ex what he missed out on? You are playing with fire!

Answer 8

Stop going to the store or stop the sex jokes. It is ok to be friends with you ex if both of you have respect for the new relationship. If he can not respect your man, he can not respect you. How much of him wanting you is just the fact you are with someone else.

Answer 9

If you're having a problem with temptation, you'd better stop seeing him and talking to him. Why play with fire? Get out of there.

I believe most men still think that you are theirs even though you already broke up. My friend's ex told her not to date a certain person because he thought he's bad. It's like protecting their territories, you know?

Move on.

Answer 10

Stop visiting the store.
Hi is married nad you are engaged. Spent more time with your fiancee. When he joke -walk away, this will show that you are nit interested in him. Your mind always want you to try adulterydon't let your mind control your heart. Everything you do do it with compassion.