my husband looks at porn, should I be worried?

Question

I don't know if i should be worried or not. We used to f*ck like rabbits before, but now we have sex once every 2 weeks or something like that. My husband & I used to look at lesbian porn every once in a while just to spice up our sex lives. He likes it & i love it! haha! The only thing is, we haven't done that for about 3 months now. I caught my husband j*cking off to some porn, I tried to ask him if I didn't satisfy him, but he just got mad and we haven't talked about it since. I don't know what to do! Should i confront the problem, is it even a PROBLEM?? Should I be more into porn?? HELP

Answer 1

if i were you i would let him catch me watching a flick and playing with myself and let him see how it feels. he just might join in, you never know. don't get mad about it. hell, start doing what they do on the flick. if i would have caught my husband jacking off to a flick i would have join in and started playing with myself or something. that **** is a turn on to me! you need to do that.

Answer 2

Honest answer. I'm not sure how old the two of you are or how long you've been married but this is normal. I can't explain why they do it, they just do. I wouldn't worry about it unless you think he may be straying elsewhere. He was probably just embarrassed that you caught him. If you are not getting what you need out of him...by all means buy some porn and some toys and then see how he reacts to that. He'll either start paying more attention to your needs or think nothing of it. Either way you get what you need.

Answer 3

Most men have been masturbating longer than they have been having sex. And the habit often began as a sneaky, private act -- which in adulthood remains a key part of the experience. Generally speaking, porn is directly related to masturbation in men. He will probably always have a side habit of watching porn privately and then masturbating at some level regardless of how great your sex life is. Only worry about it if he starts spending too much money or time on porn and/or he can't perform for you. For now, leave him be. Good luck.

Answer 4

At this point talking to him is the best. Don't go on an offensive or defensive, just state that it hurts you u that your not a part of his pleasure like you used to be. Don't even relate it to this incident and it will all come out gradually.

Answer 5

you have to talk with him about it before it gets to be a problem it sounds just like another case of mo communication rent some porno yourself some night and let him know you want to watch it with him then try to get him to talk about what it is that he thinks is going on. I still watch porn but it doesn't interfere with my sex life with my partner because we talk constantly and exchange information and ideas that;s all you have to do ..talk about everything nothing will ever get settled any other way. good luck

Answer 6

you can install a software like NetDog Porn Filter on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com

Answer 7

I think everyman has his "fantasies" but after marriage those fantasies should be the woman he married. What happens when the porn isn't enough?

Answer 8

The porn isn't the problem.

Answer 9

You and your husband should see a marital counselor. btw, there's nothing wrong with adult porn being looked at by adults. You have issues in your relationship, though, and you need to work them out.

Answer 10

Damn I'm jealous. Do you think you can talk my wife into that lesbian porn thing? I can't get her to watch regular porn...!