im loosing him...my husband is pulling away and I dont know what to do..I recently met someone and before you start attacking me, nothing happend and nothing will. I just feel like hes giving me attention where my husband is not..and what I mean by that is he talks to me and is interested in what I say, and compliments me.
I guess what Im asking is.... Is it normal for a man to pull away so early in a marriage and also am I wrong for letting this other man give me what Im missing... even though there are no romantic feelings (on my part at least.)
Oh and by the way..we havent been fighting..there are no financial problems or anything like that..
and weve only been married for 5 months...together 4 yrs
2007-01-10 14:55:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me ask you this, why is your husband pulling away from you? what is the cause? have you two talked about it? have you told him how you feel? and about this new someone you met?
I've been with my husband for about 8 years before we got married.
there have been times that we have pulled away from eachother, due to lack of communication, confusion, stress, and other things. but we found our way back to eachother. I rekindle the spark that was gone by reminiscening about the good times. and believe me it really helped.
You both need to sit down, relax, talk over a candle light dinner, or wherever doing whatever, just the two of you. and talk. rekindle the spark. and if that doesnt work, go to the next thing. make him dinner, dress up and go out to eat at your fave place. do something together.
before you start "talking" to some guy. Marriage is alot of work. It takes two to make it work. do everything you can, to pull your husband back to you. dont give up just yet.
and if all else fails, seek marriage counseling.
Just listen to your heart. you seem like a wonderful passionate girl. and so does your man. but it sounds like the spark in your relationship is almost out.
good luck, best wishes, happy marriage for life.
2007-01-10 15:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by jen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many guys, once the wedding rings go on, get this sense of "now that I've got that done".....it could be that after 4 years of being together, he's shifted into this mode, and you see it without understanding it.
It's hunter/gatherer all the way...some guys know how to continue to treat their wives as a prize to be caught, others see them as corralled and figure they'll be happy as is while the guy sets out on his next accomplishment.
If he's pulling away, let him continue, and do what you can to show him that this "catch" is still wiggling a bit. In other words, show him a you he isn't too familiar with....with guys, that's not too hard....one that will refresh his interest and leave him asking if there's more to learn. If he thinks you're "caught", then he has no incentive to pay special attention (emphasis on the word special) to you.
2007-01-10 23:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong. You should never turn to another for what you are not getting from your spouse. It's called cheating. You should talk to your husband and go to counseling. Get this other man out of the picture or your marriage doesn't have a chance.
2007-01-10 23:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to marriage counseling
2007-01-10 23:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋