I was in a 'relationship' that lasted one year. The guy gradually abused me physcially and mentally. We were attending the same college and lived in the same co-ed dorm- so I put up with his awful behaviour. No one in our dorm relealized that he beat me. Outwardly, I remained happy and did well in class. After about 4 months - he became fixated with my neighbour and was constantly hitting out at her. (She was not interested in him- although he did string him along.) When we fought- he would say he was bored of me and regreted being with me. But when he calmed down he said he did not mean it. Not knowing how to handle this situation since we were living in the same dorm- I always forgave him.
I have not seen him since finishing the course (we live in diff. states) but exchange sporadic e-mails. I know I never want to be in such a relationship (or with him) again but sometimes I just want to pick up the phone and call him. Why? I want to forget him and that part of my life!
2007-01-10 14:47:22 · 5 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was once married to a man who would abuse me both mentally and physically. Then he would throw himself at my feet and buy me flowers and gifts in apology promising me he would never do it again. This continued for 5yrs, we even had children together! I am now thankfully divorced from him. Most importantly you must remember that abusive lovers do kill your self-esteem, they are really nice at first and then become control freaks.They make you feel insecure about yrself so that you become dependent on them, and so that you don't leave them. I can only imagine that this is how he has made you feel, and that this is the reason for you feeling a need to call him. Be-careful... 'cause this dude has nothing good to offer you, but wasted years and scars for life! These guys are like sharks once they taste blood, they will progressively destroy you, and will NEVER change for the better.
You are a SMART lady, and very lucky to be out of the r'ship. FORGET him and move on. Take it as a lesson learnt, don't repeat mistakes! In due time you will meet a good man who will not only love you, but treat you like a lady. Good luck!
2007-01-10 15:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by zara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to call him becuase a part of you miss him. The "good" him, he was nice, sweet,romantic at one point ..Right?
Is nothing wrong with you, you been abused by him. He had control over you for certain period of time...I been there also.
To forget him... start dating again, is so many wonderful guys out there. This time you will do better ,becuase You know what you don't want in a guy. At the 1st sign of any type of abuse,move on.
Good luck & be safe!
2007-01-10 23:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Blond34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing just fine.But why call him if you want to forget that part of your life.You are remembering the good times the two of you had together or maybe deep down you still have feelings and unresolved issues you need to deal with.
2007-01-10 23:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you wish he had been better to you. Do not call him!
2007-01-10 23:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell yourself you're better than that!!
2007-01-10 22:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by Shanay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋