Girls do you worry about marriage ?

Question

A couple of decades ago, people among which feminists, declared till death does us part is old fashioned and out of style. Now people primarly men I guess, say marriage is sooo yesterday not wanting to get married ever (it does not equal to beeing singel or sexless). Girls do you worry about marriage or could you just accept it as part of modern life to not get married to your partner or any partner ever ?

Yaga when about 40 people out of 1000 marry and about 20 out of 1000 divorce then thats 40/20 a divorce rate of 50% ^.^. Wendy I was talking about marriage, marriage or even cohabitation is not required to get a woman pregnant. I might want children, but that does not mean I have to cohabit or get married.

Answer 1

I never used to be one for marriage, I preferred the idea of just living with someone....after all it's just a piece of paper right?

Well, all that changed when I met the right man. We have now been married 5 years and looking back, I can't believe I was ever against the idea. I think when you truly love someone, your whole outlook changes towards things like marriage and having children.

HTH : )

Answer 2

I'm already married and never plan to divorce so this question is moot for me, but...I wonder...how do you guys feel about "genetic suicide?" Of course you can still have sex, but what about children? Don't you want to get your genes into the next generation? How will you do that, and not marry? if you say you can have children without marriage, obviously this is true, but it would require SOME relationship with a woman (outside of "just sex") to make sure the child ACTUALLY "made it." And socially (and morally as well) you are financially responsible for helping out, and you should be there for the child to help raise it (even if you don't cohabit), otherwise it is a purely selfish act, and not fair to the child. I have often wondered about this particular "problem" with the marriage boycott lot. Are you willing to accept genetic suicide, or single parenthood?

EDIT--Okay, so then will you pay child support and let someone else raise it, or will you take the baby and raise it yourself, keeping in mind the career sacrifices you will have to make in order to raise a child alone? I really am just curious about this, and sort of the "logistics" of it, I guess.

Answer 3

I am 54 and have never been married. I have never worried about it one way or another. I have 2 wonderful children by adoption. I believe in marriage, but do not feel compelled to find a husband. I would not feel badly about someone else's marital status or if they lived with a member of the opposite sex. I'm very liberal.

Answer 4

Western modern societies are about freedom to choose whatever you want to do your life.
I am a women, 32 years single. I'm also straight.
In the pass women belong to their fathers, and when they got married they start to be a belong of theirs husbands.
That fact turns up to be an argument for persons to give up of getting married, because of what it use to represent in the pass.

Fortunately in our days this is not a big deal anymore, there are people (man and women) who wants to get married and others that don't! And what is really good is that everybody can choose (not homosexuals, what for me is a stupidity... they should be allowed to married if they want to!)

Lets keep it.... like this!

Answer 5

Dearest mangina librarian Baba "math is hard" Yaga:

In the United States, in 2005 there were 7.5 new marriages per 1,000 people, and 3.6 divorces per 1,000, a ratio which has existed for many individual years since the 1960s.

He said the marriage rate had dropped. You confirmed it. BOTH the marriage and the divorce rate have been steadily dropping hence the ratio has remained exactly-the-same.

It does sort of follow that the divorce rate per 1000 people would decline with the marriage rate per 1000 people, seeing as you require a marriage for a divorce.

So.. you just proved him CORRECT...

You have no idea how much joy this answer has given me :)

Answer 6

You are entirely WRONG. The divorce rate in the USA has been steadily DECLINING since 1980:

"The U.S. divorce rate is 17.7 per 1,000 married women. It was 22.6 in 1980 when the decline began. The marriage rate also has dropped — 50% since 1970 — to 39.9 per 1,000 unmarried women."

More young people (in their 20's) are foregoing the ceremonial aspects and entering into common law marriages. As they age, SOME of them (primarly Americans) are choosing to enter into "formal" marriages.

"Common Law Relationships in Canada" 
Common-law relationships are on the rise: according to Statistics Canada, the number of common-law couples is growing at 16 times the rate of marriages.
By Malcolm Kronby, LL.B., Q.C.


What constitutes a "Common-Law" Marriage?

We generally use the term "common-law marriage" to describe the voluntary union of a man and woman in a lasting relationship resembling marriage. The parties may indeed behave as if married, refer to each other as if married, and be recognized or assumed to be married in their community. …
They may have specific rights as conferred by statutes. For instance, they may treat each other as dependants for tax purposes, and take the same deductions as if they were married. They have mutual obligations to their children, with all rights of custody and access, as if married. They receive Child Tax Benefits. They can insure each other's life and qualify for pension benefits."

As I stated earlier, young people the whole world over are choosing "common law marriage" over the traditional marriage. Many - but not all - obligations and rights are the same as in a traditional marriage. People are looking at the quality of the relationship FIRST. The piece of paper that comes with traditional marriage, if important at all, is far less a priority in this day and age. It most certainly isn't a NECESSITY anymore.

Answer 7

I never want to be a wife. My BF has accepted that I won't change my last name or have a wedding. I think a domestic partnership would be ideal; the sharing of benefits and taxes without the title of marriage.

Answer 8

I worry that one day I might find marriage appealing. It's the last thing I want in life. I love being single and wouldn't want to be any other way.

Answer 9

I don´t worry about it. I keep my mind open for it, though, thinking that maybe someday i´ll meet a guy i´ll like to spend the rest of my life with. But marriage is not a goal for me.

Answer 10

when you're a young teenager (preteen), youd probably go, i dont ever want to get married, however by the time you get to be around 20, you start seriously going out wth guys and doing romantic stuff so yeah.......