She pretends she likes him, but i found out she doesn't. It hurts his feelings as well as mine. I have no clue what to do, and when he proposes is she going to get worse? I really love him and don't want to have this happen to us. Please help.
2007-01-10 14:30:26 · 34 answers · asked by Shorty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she told me why she doesn't like him..its because he doesn't have a job at the moment, and that he use to smoke. hes stopping cause he knows it makes me sick. i don't feel that thoses are good reasons to not like him.
2007-01-10 14:50:32 · update #1
It's your life and you have to do what feels right, wha your heart says to do. Sit down with your mom and talk to her, tell her how you feel about him and she is going to have to accept him because he isn't going anywhere. Find out why she don't like him, maybe its something that can be worked on as a family. I know what you are going through, my mom didn't like my bf either. I set down and talked to her and told her that she didn't have to like him but she had to accept him and be nice to him. That was 5 years ago and we are still together and have an 8 month old daughter. She learned to like him. It will be OK. Just be sure to listen to what she says and she should listen to you also.
Good Luck and Congratulations!!!
2007-01-10 14:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by shannon h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can find out why she doesn't like him. She might just have the wrong impression. Do you live with your parents? It may help to have him over for dinner several times in the next few months so that your mom can get to know him better.
If your mom is going to the trouble to pretend that she likes him then she must care about your feelings. I am sure that she wouldn't do anything to hurt you.
Did she tell you that she doesn't like him? If you heard it from someone else then you can assume that she never meant for you or your boyfriend to know.
If you did hear this from someone else, did you confirm this with your mother? You may have been given incorrect information.
Don't stress about it, it will all work out.
2007-01-10 14:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem you're dealing with is quite usual.. i think spare some more time for your bf and mom to get to know each other well. tell you're boyfriend about this problem because he would be a great help. have a serious conversation-you, your mom and your boyfriend- tackle this issue before accepting the marriage proposal so that your mother wont get hurt if you'll get married with a guy she doesn't like. of course you're the one who's gonna get married but of course you must also consider your mom's feelings.
2007-01-10 14:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by zhel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
elope. no, don't. If your mom is in the picture, you're probably too young. She's probably right, too, marriage is nothing to rush into, and it's always better to live with someone before you get married cause you just might have lost interest in him by next year, or him for you. You are still growing and changing, and two years from now you'll likely be a much different person, and might not even remember ol what's his name.
2007-01-10 14:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that your mom loves you so much and no one measures up? So she pretended to like your boyfriend because she didn't want you to be disappointed?
Have a talk with your mom and ask her the reasons. If you still plan to marry this man, there's not much she can do but wish you the best if she loves you. Good luck sweetie!
2007-01-10 14:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an honest conversation with your Mom, why doesn't she like him? You need to find that out. Before you get married, I'd make a goal to have all 3 of you communicating honestly. I think your mother is wierd to tell other people and not you. As for your marriage- if you don't keep it honest- you won't keep it at all.
2007-01-10 14:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the situation where my family did not care for my girlfriend. I know that it is not fun. my best advice to you would be to sit down with your mom and find out why she does not like him. At the same time keep this in mind. Go with your heart. If you love him then you have to do what is going to be good for you. Not what is good for your family. If I were you though I would truly try to find out why your mom does not like him and at least listen to her opinion but in the long run just go with your heart.
2007-01-10 14:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Big Will 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's pretending that shows she's willing to work with you because she cares about you. I would take a step back and make sure she doesn't have good reason for not liking him. If you still love him then sit down and talk with her about it.
2007-01-10 14:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea if ya Love him just go for it, And dont let ya mom bother you, If she greats a grandchild or whateva not saying ur gonna get straight on busy she might end up loving the guy
2007-01-10 14:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by GothicThug3tt3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to get them to spend more time together. Do not pressure them in any way and let them fight out thier fights if that is what happens. Try and step aside a bit and not be in the middle of their realtionship.
2007-01-10 14:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋