Girls do you worry about marriage ?

Question

A couple of decades ago, people among which feminists, declared till death does us part is old fashioned and out of style. Now people primarly men I guess, say marriage is sooo yesterday not wanting to get married ever (it does not equal to beeing singel or sexless). Girls do you worry about marriage or could you just accept it as part of modern life to not get married to your partner or any partner ever ?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Yes, I did "worry" about marriage. Even though I don't subscribe to religious dogmas, I wanted to get married primarily for the practial and social reasons. It makes no sense to me to be in a committed relationship without at the same time being married, or preparing to do so. There are lots of practical benefits marriage provides that I would love to take advantage of - taxes, health benefits, financial management; socially, marriage is still just about the only way to clearly communicate to the community: "we're a couple" - I don't want to spend the rest of my life answering the stupid question "why aren't you married yet?" I'm a very rational and practical person, and to me, there's no *rational* reason to not get married once I have found the person I want to be with. To people who say - "Why get married when half of the marriages end in divorce?" - I reply: "but half don't". It's more of a half-empty/half-full question; not that I feel that people who are in principle against marriage are wrong - but I would not be in a relationship with such a person due to this difference in our world views. If I was to stay "un-married", it would be due to being single, not being a forever-girlfriend.

Answer 3

Why do you ask the same question time and time again? Do you have difficulty absorbing the information and need to read it at least twice? Is that why you continually post the same questions? As I just pointed out elsewhere, you are entirely WRONG. The divorce rate in the USA has been steadily DECLINING since 1980:

"The U.S. divorce rate is 17.7 per 1,000 married women. It was 22.6 in 1980 when the decline began. The marriage rate also has dropped — 50% since 1970 — to 39.9 per 1,000 unmarried women."

More young people (in their 20's) are foregoing the ceremonial aspects and entering into common law marriages. As they age, SOME of them (primarly Americans) are choosing to enter into "formal" marriages.

"Common Law Relationships in Canada" 
Common-law relationships are on the rise: according to Statistics Canada, the number of common-law couples is growing at 16 times the rate of marriages.
By Malcolm Kronby, LL.B., Q.C.

What constitutes a "Common-Law" Marriage?

We generally use the term "common-law marriage" to describe the voluntary union of a man and woman in a lasting relationship resembling marriage. The parties may indeed behave as if married, refer to each other as if married, and be recognized or assumed to be married in their community. …

They may have specific rights as conferred by statutes. For instance, they may treat each other as dependants for tax purposes, and take the same deductions as if they were married. They have mutual obligations to their children, with all rights of custody and access, as if married. They receive Child Tax Benefits. They can insure each other's life and qualify for pension benefits."

As I stated earlier, young people the whole world over are choosing "common law marriage" over the traditional marriage. Many - but not all - obligations and rights are the same as in a traditional marriage. People are looking at the quality of the relationship FIRST. The piece of paper that comes with traditional marriage, if important at all, is far less a priority in this day and age. It most certainly isn't a NECESSITY anymore.

Answer 4

Haha, I'm a feminist, but I'm getting married. My lover and I live together now, but we're going to go through with the legal shite simply because 1) legal marriage in this decade does not go against my feminist beliefs 2) because of my family and their crazed religious beliefs it's easier to go do the church wedding and the legal papers than argue with them for the rest of their lives or disown them especially since they are paying for the wedding and for me to go through college and possibly graduate school 3) why the hell not? living together forever is the same as marriage when you're commited.

If it weren't for my family, we probably wouldn't bother getting married and just stay living together as common law spouses which for all purposes including taxes and insurance minus divorce is married. (oh I love Canada)

Answer 5

I have been with my b/f for 4 years. We both agree that marriage is not for us and that we can live together not married and be happy. To me marriage is a religious ceremony and I am not a religious person. I do not need a piece of paper and a ring to prove my love to someone.

Answer 6

You can always marry someone, that opportunity will be available to you for the rest of your life [after 18, of course]. Until I find someone that believes that marriage is for better or for worse, not until someone better comes along. I won't get married.

Answer 7

Yes, I worry about it. Here's my solution.
I expect the men in my life to act like men. They're all being suffocated in today's culture. They need to be able to go out and hunt and conquor and all that stuff. The way things are now makes them feel demasculated and miserable. SO>>>
i let doors be opened for me, and I always thank them for it. I never offer to go dutch - and wouldn't go out again if I was asked to. I expect my man to bring home the bacon ( as I do , too) and I do my fair share of stuff around the house when I expect him to do guy stuff.
Even with all this, we have a hell of a time keeping it together, but marriage is hard!

If we want to be married, we need to act like girls and let them ( insist that they) act like men.

I think the guys would like that.

Answer 8

I think marriage is a good thing for the right people. I would like to think I am one of those people.

Answer 9

Unless you strongly feel like marrying dont get in to it. It saves lot of hassles. It is easier to live with some one and dump at will.

Answer 10

i like being married