Why do I get "blue balls" when a girl has last minute resistance about sex?

Question

Hello, I was just with a girl yesterday laying next to her making out. While we were making out she started rubbing my penis, I tried to lift her shirt, but she instantly pushed my hand down. I said "okay sorry.." waited 2 minutes then continued again, trying to lift her shirt etc. Well I noticed after about a half an hour of this my stomach started hurting, and I automatically knew I had "blue balls" again. I never used to know what blue balls was, but after she left I checked and my balls were swollen and the veins were very thick as if semen were stuck in them. Stomach still in pain, I forced myself to masturbate and semen squirted everywhere like I was 12 years old and my stomach pain quickly subsided. I know that I should not get mad that a girl has last minute resistance, it seems they cannot help it, but I must be doing something wrong If I am getting blue balls with the last 3 girls I've been with. I'm 24 now, Has anyone else had this problem? Please advise.

Answer 1

blue balls is a naturally occurring phenomenon when you have an erection for a Long time and do not ejaculate...the reason is that the body recognizes you are aroused, your penis gets erect because the blood flow is shifted to your penis to make it stand erect...in the process, the blood flow to the testicles is decreased and the veins engorge in your testicles...after a while, the testicles begin to starve for oxygen and they begin to hurt. it is this pain that is associated with blue balls (the blue is actually ischemia to the tissues). once you ejaculate, the body tells the valves to open up, the erection is lost, the engorged veins go down and normal circulation is restored and the pain goes away...masturbating before a date is useless because no matter what, the mind is stronger than you think and you will get an erection...the only difference is that you may not ejaculate much because you just emptied out the seminal vesicles and you haven't had enough time to refill them...
good luck

Answer 2

Try masturbating before a date.

Look, if you get aroused, and can't finish, you have hormonal changes going on in your body. The blue balls thing is pretty much a myth - what you are seeing is a 'hard-on' which is perfectly natural, and what you are feeling is the failure to release sexual tension.

And women do have the right to say no. Here's what you need to do - set the guidelines before getting on the bed - ask "are you interested in having sex, or just making out a little?" At least that will give you an idea up front what to expect. EVEN SO - if she says no, it's NO.

Answer 3

The first official date I was on I got a sever case of blue balls. What happened is that I got to third base but we could not finish because I had to ride back home with my father, a 1 1/2 hour ride. This was the only time that I had blue balls that bad. My suggestion would be to ask the young lady to finish the hand job that she started without you returning the favor if she doesn't want it.

Answer 4

Kakk - That blue balls stuff is bull, nonsense. I don't shoot all over the place when a girl plays w/ the joy stick. Ur going 2 fast & the girls rnt looking 4 facials. Cool it & throttle down that skin piston.

Answer 5

You're normal. Next time before you go out on a date, make sure you masturbate. That'll avoid the problem and pain. At your age, you should still be able to ejaculate again if it all works out.

Answer 6

Semen does NOT get stuck in your veins. Masturbate before you go out with a gal and you won't have that problem.

Answer 7

If THREE women are backing out, maybe you're just going too fast. Men like to go fast, women tend to like to go slowly. You need to warm them up... slowly. But you also need to respect their right to say "no."
I know, it's hard... but when you get a woman warmed up, it's also hard to cool her down. :)))

Answer 8

What the hell is this blue balls,I have never experienced this lol.

Answer 9

chop off your balls.