I now believe that a person who truly loves their significant other is not capable of cheating. Maybe I'm just naive, how many of you agree or disagree?
2007-01-10 14:09:57 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do not believe that if a person truly loves u that they would be capable of cheating. think it is because they don't love u anymore that they cheat. think it is because they are looking for a way out of a relationship they no longer want to be in in the first place. by cheating they are seeking to make a new future for themselves without u.
2007-01-10 14:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the relationship is going well and the two partners love each other there is no problems but sometimes one of the two has an insignificant affair or a short fling with someone else and the partner can't forgive and forget. I do agree with you that when the person truly loves his or her other half, cheating would not be necessary unless there is a feeling of detachment or lack of satisfaction sexually. The partner might look somewhere else for what he hasn't got home. There is also the question of communication that sometimes is practically non-existing between the couple, and that leads to cheating...
You must be a romantic person not a naîve person.
2007-01-10 14:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has never cheated... I am going to have to disagree. Though I know I would never cheat, that has nothing to do with love. I wouldn't cheat on someone that I didn't love either. I would wait until I could break up with them before I would move on. However, no matter how in love you are, there are going to be days along the way that you are feeling hurt, lonely, vulnerable... if the right situation presented itself on one of those days and it isn't engrained in you as a moral principle not to cheat, I can see how it might happen. It doesn't make it excusable... but possible.
2007-01-10 14:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by CJ M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not naive; in fact, you have grasped a great truth. By definition, love does not allow us to inflict pain on our partners, knowing that we will experience that very pain by virtue of our soul connection, which causes us to live as one; sensing each others joy and sorrow. It is quite possible to be in love and still feel the tug of attraction towards another. At that point, true love will call to mind the devastating pain such an act would cause our partner, and put the brakes on any indiscretion. I agree with you; and as a person in love, I appreciate your point of view.
2007-01-10 16:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Circumstances values and self esteem will determinate or will make a difference depending on the case.
For example:
My wife and I have being together for one year and eight months and married for one year and two month. When we move together we used to have sex every day for about three months. One day she didn't feel like it anymore. Ever since our sexual activity decreased to about once every two or three months. We haven't have sex now for eight months.
I don't believe in cheating so I decided to talk to her but she doesn't want to talk about it.
I spoke to a couple of friends about it; I explained that I love her and that I don't want to cheat.
Most of the answers that I got are to basically cheat.
I decided to ask for the divorce since I don't cheat, but I don't want to live like this for the rest of my life because my sex drive is very hi. And obviously her's isn't.
What I'm trying to say is that some people love their spouse but depending on the circumstances and values will cheat or not.
Communication is a very important factor in a relationship, as well as our actions. Some people like my wife don't understand that there are many way to sexually please your husbands/wifes without having penetration. Those people don't even want to put them selves in their husbands/wifes situation and try to be understanding of the other.
Every action causes a reaction.
Cheating in my opinion is not good. Why to create an extra problem for your self? Isn't enough with your life the way it is? I believe in breaking up before jumping into another relationship if you are not happy.
Best Wishes.
2007-01-11 05:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Eduardo S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a person truly in love with someone can not cheat on them.
2007-01-10 14:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 50/50 with that comment. only because things happen in a relationship that make people look at things differently. or you could be going through something and someone outside the relationship is there at the wrong time and things happen. so i say that everyone is capable of cheating
2007-01-10 14:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER cheat on my husband! I believe him to be my one true love...even if i had an slight thought about being with someone else i would just break it off first rather than cheat. I am a loyal as they get.
2007-01-10 14:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person truly loves you cheating will not even cross their mind. Lust and love are two different things and one must learn to differentiate. Having both is the ideal but you seldom have both.
2007-01-10 14:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible and it does happen but having said that if you really love some one and they love you and one of you do end up cheating then you can generally take them back if it was a honest mistake or not done by choice (rape by some one who was meant to be a friend) and it only proves that your love for each other is so strong than it can overcome everything life throughs at it and be un breakable and this sort f love is very very hard to come by i do believe he is my soul mate and nothing will ever come between us ever so to your question yes you can
2007-01-10 14:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋